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289 Mufti Menk Motivational and Inspirational Life Quotes

Hate less and love more.

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You are judged by how you treat others. So work on it.

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I am inspired by those who are very humble yet they have achieved more than most.

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Insulting others is never a way of correcting them. Instead it causes more damage and proves that we need help ourselves.

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Do not let your pain make you unkind. Nobody knows what the other person is going through. There is too much suffering in the world already.

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Why do we lie. Is it because we are afraid of displeasing people? Or do we lie in order to appear to be better than we really are? Examine the heart. Whatever the reason, work on it!

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Humility is everything. No matter how successful, how good looking, how rich or how smart you are remember, nobody likes arrogance. Stay connected to people. Stay real. That is the hallmark of true success!

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What is this life but a number of days. Remember, with each passing day, a part of us passes away, as we get closer to our final destination. So do good & be the best you can be. That is how you will be remembered.

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When someone has failed in what they set out to do, do not push them down even harder. Give a word of encouragement. Uttering good words to someone after failure is worth more than all the praise you can give after success.

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In this life, periods of ease and hardship will keep alternating; that is why we should never get complacent when things are good. Remember, the best worship is waiting for the ease to come when you are experiencing hardship.

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We all get hurt. We all have wounds, but you cannot let that be an excuse to just sit around and do nothing. Remember, pain is part of life. Your emotional wounds strengthen you because they show you have lived a purposeful life.

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Haters are just people with low self esteem. They do not believe in themselves; so they try to put other people down in a sick way to lift themselves up! do not let their criticism and negativity distract you from your goals in life!

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No matter how good you are to certain people, they may never reciprocate and treat you in the same way. Learn to accept this. It may not be easy but it is the most logical and wise thing to do! Such is life. do not lose sleep over it!

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Whatever it is you want to do, do it now. do not use the excuse of waiting for perfect timing to procrastinate. Perfection is not for this world. So before you end up miserable because you have been stuck waiting, act on it and start today.

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If you live your life worrying about who hurt you and who broke you down, you are going to end up being miserable. Learn to look at the positive side; who was always there and helped you back on your feet again and made you smile once more!

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The better you are, the more successful you become, the bigger you get, the more you will be criticized or just have nasty things said about you or even to you; anonymously online. It usually stems from jealousy. do not waste time responding!

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Learn to walk away from people and situations that threaten your peace of mind, self-respect, values, morals or self worth. do not argue with them. do not get into a debate with them. It is not worth your effort. It is also a sign of maturity.

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Do not let unkind people stop you from being kind. Remember, the people most in need of some kindness are those who seem strangers to it. So go out of your way to be kind to those most in need of our kindness, the unkind people of the world.

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Do not be sad to the extent that we think nobody could possibly be in a worse situation than what we are facing now. That is not true. Always look at those who are in far worse situations than ourselves when we are feeling hopeless and depressed.

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Do not waste your time explaining to people who have already made up their minds about you; those who are committed to misunderstand you! They have an agenda. do not stress over them and get on with your life. They do not deserve your attention.

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Always try to put yourself in someone else's shoes. Have a heart. Be compassionate. Everyone has a story. Choose kindness no matter what is being dished out. Try your best to remember this when you find being compassionate is too hard for you.

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do not be fooled and let the world tell you that when you win, you show immense strength. No. Strength does not come from winning. Your struggles develop your strengths. The more you have gone through hardship and trials, the stronger you become!

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Be careful what you say to others because you may not get a chance to take back your words. You may say things you do not mean at the height of anger & live to regret it. It is so easy to get worked up on a daily basis. Do not . it is not worth it!

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Be careful when you blurt out harsh words in harsh tones. The hurt might pierce deeper than you could ever imagine. You probably think a simple sorry can fix it. But think again. Words can leave scars. Some scars are more permanent than others.

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do not let people manipulate your mind, feelings and emotions or control how you think about yourself. No one should be allowed to do that. Your thoughts are your own. it is the most powerful thing you have. Never give that power to someone else!

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Just because you took longer than others does not mean you have failed. do not compare your journey to those around you. you will end up disappointed & disillusioned. Tread your path the best way you can. Focus on the route ahead. do not be distracted!

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Do not attach your heart to those who lead a sinful life for you might one day find yourself in deep regret. it is so important to choose your friends wisely because knowingly or unknowingly they can make a huge difference to your life. Take heed!

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Recognize when things no longer serve a purpose. You let them go not because of arrogance or pride but because they do not fit into your life anymore. So close the chapter, learn the lessons and shake off the dust. do not waste your life. Move on.

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Be careful when choosing the kind of people you want to surround yourself with. The ones you trust the most may actually be trying to bring you down. Remember, the saddest thing about being betrayed is that it does not usually come from your enemy!

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Hiding behind anonymity to attack others on social media is a cheap act of cowardice. Respectful people use their real identity to address matters of importance in a dignified manner. Anonymous insults hold no value. They are worthless. Ignore them.

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If you are constantly on edge, tense and irritable, always complaining about the slightest thing, low on tolerance and upset with people around you, be wary. These are signs of weak faith. Learn to cultivate more patience and tolerance in your life.

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Be mindful of your old habits. do not go back to them. Remember, toxic behaviour and negative energy have a way of creeping back into your life when you are doing better. Make a conscious effort to boot them out once and for all. Be firm. Be focused.

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Remember, people do not know what you are going through. They do not feel what you feel. Train yourself to ignore what they say about you. you will feel liberated and at ease. you will feel a huge burden off your back. Your heart will feel so much lighter!

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People tend to follow the crowd. They think if everyone else is doing it, there must be something to it. They do not want to miss out on whatever it is. Stop! Many in the crowd actually do not know why they are there. Be unique. Be yourself. Be a leader.

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One of the most precious gifts we have is time. If we only knew how much time we had left in this world, we would not get distracted and lose focus, wasting our energy and attention on useless, pointless, meaningless things. Wake up before it is too late!

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Be kind & do not abuse your spouse. Lack of kindness is the source of marital conflicts & the cause of most divorces. Anger, selfish or irresponsible behavior & criticism, push away kindness. Bit by bit, lack of kindness chips away the marriage foundation.

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We have literally become obsessed with taking photos and videos of ourselves and others. it is just another way of separating our lives that we show off on social from reality. Somehow, our devices have become our vices; they've begun to control our lives!

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The best arguments are those that you avoid. Try your best to stay out of arguing when it is worthless and can lead to enmity. But they can be commendable when they are intended to show the truth or to direct others to the truth. Choose your battles wisely!

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Be wary of keyboard warriors who engage in disputes on matters in which they have no right to speak about due to their lack of knowledge. Yet, they will openly and recklessly make online comments and verdicts on matters even the learned are cautious about.

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do not take those closest to you for granted. They are humans too and need to know they are appreciated and cherished. do not just assume they know how you feel. Tell them using the kindest and most loving words. Remind them that they are a blessing in your life.

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Why do we always feel the need to be nosey? Why do we have to know everything that is going on in someone else is life? You would be surprised with how much positive changes that you could make in your life, if you made it a priority to mind your own business!

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You may think the hardest trials are with your wealth, health or loss of a loved one. But the tragic truth is the worst trial is possibly a heart that is hardened, a heart that feels nothing when a sin is committed and a heart that rejects repeated warnings!

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Stop judging and questioning someone's intention. So much goodwill is lost when we do that. Instead, be honest and try to empathise with people. Always think good thoughts and follow through with good actions. It makes for a much more pleasant life all round!

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Some people find it so hard to apologize when they have done wrong. it is to do with their pride. You can never get them to say sorry, no matter how obvious their mistake is. Beware such pride; for even the size of a mustard seed will not let you smell Paradise.

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Your real test comes when you do the right thing even when it is difficult to do so; you are able to keep a good attitude even though people are not treating you right and when you can go the extra mile while nobody is watching. That is true character! Respect!

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Hiding pain under a smile is not easy. It can be one of the hardest things to do. You do it when you care about others more than you do for yourself. But remember, a smile can hide so much.. fear, pain, sadness, tears. But they reflect one main thing. Strength!

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The truth is we are becoming dissatisfied with what we have, what we see and do because, as soon as we go online, we see someone who has achieved, seen or done something better. Or at least, that is how they have made it look. Do not let social media ruin your life!

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Whatever you do, do not fall into this trap. Do not try to paint an awful picture of someone else in order to paint a perfect picture of yourself. It will come back to haunt you and it will not be a beautiful sight. Remember, what goes around comes around. Take heed!

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Do not hold on to grudges. Grudges are for those who insist that they are owed something. It is one sure way to become miserable. Let it go and heal your heart. You will find it easier to move on. Looking back is not going to help you. Moving forward is what we must do.

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Each day that you spend with negative thoughts, crying over what others may have done to you, feeling hopeless and that life is meaningless, is a day wasted. Pick yourself up. Learn to energise yourself. Be positive. Be strong. Be hopeful. Do not give up on life!

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Do you know that we judge others because we are insecure? When we judge, we are often projecting something we do not want to feel about ourselves or something that we feel is missing in our own lives. Think about this the next time you are tempted to pass judgement!

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Why do you feel the need to answer to your critics? You do not have to. You do not have to try and prove to people who you are. Your journey is yours alone. Remain steadfast. Honour Him. He will work things out for you in the end. Just remain calm and bear patience.

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For many of us, saying no is hard! We want others to like us, accept us; we want to meet their expectations and please them. Learn to say no when you really mean no because it is good for your well-being. We need time out; time for ourselves. Do not feel guilty!

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It is all part of life. People will cause you pain, hurt you, put you down, make you feel bad about yourself. It is how you react that will determine the outcome. Remember, they are powerless until you choose to empower them. Do not give them the ammunition they need!

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Ultimately, even the greatest of deeds can be of no benefit if the hearts are sick; if the hearts are corrupt; if the hearts are laced with envy, pride, jealousy, hatred etc. So pay great attention to the state of your heart because everything you do flows from it!

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When you want to give advice, do so in such a way that people would want to listen to you. Do not be mean and hurtful. Do not use harsh words. Do not put people down. Be genuine and nurturing in wanting to correct them, mend their ways and help them get back on track.

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Why do we often feel like we can speak with authority on someone is life? How can we when we have not experienced what the other person has; we have not walked in their shoes. We have the tendency to stereotype people and think like we know it all. The truth is we do not!

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A heart does not turn cold unless it has been treated badly for a long while. Yet, some will still endure and not show it. So cherish all those with good hearts in your life. Do not take them for granted. Be compassionate. Learn to show them the gratitude they deserve!

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Be less quick to react to people or situations. Often, they are powerless when you are less reactive. When people provoke you, try distancing yourself from them. They want you to lose your cool and get angry. Do not give in to them. Train yourself to stay calm instead.

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There will be times when you feel like everything that could possibly go wrong is going wrong. You feel like it is the end of the road for you and you are stuck in a rut. Remember, sometimes you have to go through the roughest patch to arrive at your best. Be patient!

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Do not be obsessed with things that went wrong or did not work out. That is life in a nutshell. Keep going. You will never win this race of life if you keep looking back. The mistakes you have made do not define who you are today. Think positive that things will get better!

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Protect your good deeds at all costs. Foolish is the one who does a lot of good but does not control his tongue and engages in backbiting, gossip and slander without batting an eyelid. He may turn up Judgement Day as a bankrupt, having to repay everyone he has wronged!

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Be serious about your repentance. The one who is truly remorseful is the one who is regretful of his past sins. He has a deep fear of falling into them again. And more importantly, he stays away from bad company and those who are likely to encourage him to sin again.

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Do not let the trials and pain that you are experiencing make you unkind. Everyone has struggles. Nobody knows what the other person is going through. There's too much suffering in the world already. Bear patience. It may be bitter now but the end result will be sweeter!

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Respect other people is time. We often have a very selfish attitude towards time; we expect everyone to adjust their schedules around us but we will not let anyone mess our day. Stop being self-centered and inflexible. Remember, what goes around, comes around Eventually!

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Today, we cannot seem to have a decent debate without getting angry. We are so caught up with putting our points across and we forget to listen to the other side. Always be fair, remain calm, respectful and committed to let the other party have their say. It is good ethics!

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Think well of others and see what it does to your heart. Each time you hear something bad about someone, do not spread it, give him the benefit of the doubt. Put yourself in his position. Protect yourself from worrisome thoughts that disturb your mind. Keep the peace!

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It does not matter if you have made mistakes. We all do. You do not need to carry around labels or mistakes from yesterday as if they define you. Whatever is done, is done. It is over. It does not have to brand you and affect the new choices you're making today. Go forward.

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When you are set on revenge and want to pay someone back, bear in mind that your actions will hurt you, not them. Learn to rise above it all. Revenge may give you a temporary high but it is not worth it in the long term because you are made for bigger and better things!

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Do not underestimate any act of kindness, no matter how small you think it is. Every act of kindness is a seed. All seeds will grow eventually and produce a harvest for you to reap the reward. Never tire of doing good and a bountiful harvest of blessings will be yours!

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Social media can take a toll on your self-confidence. Many today are using it to compare themselves with others. Many more use it as a benchmark for how much they have achieved in life. Do not fall into the trap. Always remind yourself of who you are and your self-worth.

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Learn to stay away from arguments and other people is drama. They sap your energy and rob your peace of mind. It takes a mature person to not get into an argument. Stay in your lane and watch from the sidelines if you must but do not get involved. Maintain your calmness.

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Just because you want peace around you does not mean agreeing with everyone all the time. You have to stand your ground and believe what you believe. But do not shove your thoughts and beliefs down someone is throat. Sometimes you have to agree to disagree. Be respectful.

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You can be the most successful person around but if you have no humility, you will not go far. There are many out there who strut around behaving like they own the world. It's a shame that those with less to boast about, do it the most. Such is the state of society today.

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Remember that kindness is a strength. It is not easy being kind, especially to those who are rude to you. On the other hand, being rude is easy. But it shows a sign of weakness. So choose to be strong and choose to leave a trail of kindness and goodness wherever you go!

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Be careful what you share on social media. Even among our family members, there may be people who hide ill feelings towards our achievements, beauty and lifestyles behind their smiles. The sad part is that most of the time, people envy what we know is not completely real!

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Do not worry about how people act. That is on them not you. Always choose kindness, that is under your control. Spread it far and wide, whichever way you can, even if it means giving a smile or a word of encouragement. Never underestimate how contagious being kind can be!

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Be extremely careful when making assumptions about others. When you lack complete information, you have to fill in the blanks yourself; based on what you may have heard from others. You connect the dots and as a result you are most likely to jump to the wrong conclusion!

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When life gets hard it is easy to think of the worst and stop dreaming of good things because it feels like they are unachievable. You will get days when you want to quit. But firm faith and the belief that after hardship, there will be ease, should see you through your journey!

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More are suffering from diseases of the heart because of social media. Jealousy, unhappiness, feelings of inadequacy take root when the difference between real or fake vanishes. Sadly, a lot of what we see is fake. Do not fall for it. Flaws and imperfections make us human!

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Beware the uncontrolled ego; it will self-obsess you until you cannot stop thinking about yourself! You are preoccupied with your own life and circumstances; sparing little or no thought about others. It can be destructive and the consequences are normally dire. Drop the ego!

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Be in the company of mature people. Those who admit they're wrong. Those who do not point fingers and blame others for their mistakes. Those who take responsibility for their actions. Those who do not hesitate to apologise. These are people who will help you grow in life!

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Do you feel like you are running around doing too much for this world, leaving little time for your Hereafter? You are not alone. It is easy to get sucked into one thing after another; there seems to be no end. Learn to pause and take stock of your life before it's too late.

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Each day is a mixture of good and bad, highs and lows, pleasure and pain, joy and sorrow. That is the cycle of life. Have the ability to see life beyond your own needs; empathize with others, give a little of yourself or your time to someone else for a change. Make a difference!

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There will always be critics. Some will be constructive while others just want to tear you down. Do not waste your time trying to convince the wrong people; just keep running your race and do what you do best. Focus on the positives and do not feel the need to engage them!

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What is this life? We all know that this worldly life is temporary. It is nothing but an illusion, play and amusement. It will trick you. It will entice you. And yet we spend a disproportionate amount of time on it, forgetting to build our everlasting life in the Hereafter.

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Give people the time and space they need to to heal from their hurt. Do not rush them. We all deal with trials and tribulations in our own unique ways. Lend an ear, lend a helping hand, make sure they know you are there if they need you. That is the best help you can offer!

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We all face challenges in life. And at times, it can feel like those challenges may just beat you down. But if you want something, you have to keep going. Do not let the idea of quitting enter your mind; stay strong. The people who win in life are the ones who do not quit.

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In this world, that is full of negativity and harsh criticism, be a beacon of hope and positivity. How difficult is it to say a good word, to encourage and motivate others? And if you cannot, at least do not hurt people with your words or actions. It is best to remain quiet.

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Sometimes, a task can seem almost impossible. But remember to take baby steps; one foot in front of the other. You can always pause when you are tired out. But take that first step, come what may! Do not procrastinate. Before you know it, you would have completed the task!

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Learn to say no to people who mess with your head. The ones who keep doing things intentionally to upset you. The ones who always play the victim even though it is obvious they are wrong. The ones who expect you to prioritise them but will not do the same for you. Avoid them!

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Everyone wants to succeed in life but only a few will be truly happy for your success. The truth is, people will generally only support your goals and dreams until you make it and end up doing more than them. Sadly, they want to see you do good, but never better than them!

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This world is such that there will be people who love you and those who will hate you. Remember, you are not for everyone and that is ok. You are not in this world to win a popularity poll. So do not waste your time with such people. Share your journey with those who value you.

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Whatever goals you are setting, often it is better to keep that thought to yourself. Not everyone is a well-wisher. While you are telling someone about your next ambitious move, they might not always want the best for you. There is a lot of competition and jealousy out there!

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No matter what is going on, always uphold good character and conduct. Let people criticise, let them pick on petty issues, let them say nasty things. Be good and kind-hearted even if they are not. Rise above it. What goes around comes around. Remember there is Judgement Day!

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We have to accept that regardless of what we want in this world and regardless of whether or not we get it, we are still going to want more and so much more. That is just the nature of Man. Learn to focus more on what is to come, the Hereafter. You will be the happiest person!

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Social media has many benefits but the quality of our life has become largely dependent on what we post online and how it compares to everyone else in our feed. Do not let your value be attached to your online presence. It is unhealthy. Appreciate life. Stop the comparison!

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Some people especially love it when they hear something that makes someone look bad. They seem to thrive on it and cannot wait to spread it. Even though the temptation to gossip is powerful, you will always win when you choose NOT to engage in it. Make that commitment today.

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We live in uncertain times. The world is becoming a more dangerous place; nothing can be taken for granted. Much of the world seems to be in a state of bewildering confusion. Do not neglect the link with our Maker. That is the only way to keep our sanity during these times!

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Thinking of death will help you prepare for that meeting with your Creator. It will help you reflect on how you will appear before Him. Full of regret and shame or with a deep sense of happiness for having been dutiful. The choice is yours. Do not let this world trick you.

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Many of us are stressed because we are in a hurry. We have this mental schedule which must be achieved by a certain time; get a degree, a good job, get married, have kids. We get upset when the schedule is out of sync. Trust that what He has decreed for you will be yours!

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True friends are hard to come by these days. The sad reality is many friends will only like you for what you can do for them instead of for who you are. Identify such friends. Make a conscious effort to change for the better. You will start seeing a difference in your life!

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When you feel like you can't keep going, turn your heart to the One who knows about very aspect of your life. Tell Him you cannot carry on. But He can. Only He can turn things around for you. Ask Him to replace what's lost, mend what's broken and make you feel whole again!

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We should not be defined by others' viewpoint of us, but rather by our actions and our own words. The words we choose to describe people can have a huge impact on them. We never know what each one is experiencing. Let people live their own lives. Let us not judge and label.

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If you have managed to clean up your act so far in this blessed month, that is really commendable. Make a commitment to never let anger, envy, hatred, malice, slander, gossip, backbiting, obscene talk, swear words and the likes from your mouth, come back into your life again!

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Before speaking bad about others, ask yourself; if present, would the person spoken about dislike and become unhappy about what you are saying? If so, then consider staying quiet. It is better to communicate directly with someone than to speak about others behind their backs!

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Jumping to conclusions is one of the most common forms of negative thinking. You usually jump to a negative conclusion without any justifiable facts of the situation. As a result, you become negative, depressed, anxious, sad or angry. Put a stop to it. Change your mindset!

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Always remember, your value is not based on what you look like, what you do, or who you know, your status in life! Also you are not defined by your past. Use the past to learn lessons for the present and future. Your true value comes from how close you are to your Creator!

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We live in an age of envy. Where envy is being taken to extremes. People are generallly dissatisfied with their lives because they cannot achieve the lifestyle they want but which they see others have. This is dangerous. Be grateful for what you have before you lose it all.

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Take a break from social media periodically. Reconnect with the real world. Plug in to real people and places around you. Find time to actually see someone in person instead of sending them a message online. Connections with family and friends are more meaningful face to face!

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When you give others a sincere compliment, words of encouragement or just a warm smile, you are making their world a little better. You are making them feel appreciated and valuable. You will feel more fulfilled because you have done something to make someone else is life better.

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Learn to listen. People just want to be heard. To feel that their voice matters. Give them a listening ear. Show them that in the chaos of this world, someone is concerned and can empathize with them, free from judgment. Be that person for someone. Show your ability to care!

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In a world that is trying to make you hate, judge and not care about others, learn to be considerate and compassionate. Be the bigger person. Be tolerant. Be the one who will go out of your way to help someone. Be the one showing kindness not just in bad times but all the time!

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When you speak about negative traits in others and spread untruths and vicious rumors about them, you are sinning. Be wary. What they are and who they are - that is none of your business anyway. Just stay away from this bad habit and you are working your way towards Paradise!

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Remember there is no problem that cannot be solved or resolved. Life throws us curveballs on occasions and more often than not, what we worry about is not even important in the long term. Always seek guidance and strength from the One who has the answer to all our problems!

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One of the biggest flaws in humans is pretending to be blind to their own shortcomings but they are the first to jump down someone's throat when others make a mistake. Learn to be more self-critical instead of pointing fingers. Leave the judging to the fairest Judge of all!

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Let us admit that we all need love, kindness and care to get through that tough week, the grey skies and storm clouds in life. For the times when things go wrong, when we feel lost, when everyone else appears to be doing well, know that any act of goodness goes a long way.

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It does not matter if everyone else is doing it. You do not have to be part of that crowd. It will get you nowhere. Let go of the need to compare yourself with everyone else. Do what matters most in your life. After all it is your life; you are not living someone else is life!

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When you judge others, you are actually issuing an invitation to them to judge you. Stop focusing on people is faults; instead focus on their strengths. Train yourself to only look for the good in others. You will be a happier person, attracting more positivity into your life.

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The way you treat your parents says a lot about you as a person. Some of us are more mature than others. But it is never easy, there's always a rough patch because we are only human. Your parents just want to see you do things they couldn't do. Be the best child you can be!

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The truth is nobody is born a racist. You have to be taught. Are we dealing with racism, bigotry and prejudice in our own lives so that we can be examples to our children and those under our charge? Do we reject someone only because of his skin colour? Time for reflection!

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Remember, attitude is everything. You have a choice daily as to how you react to things. The bulk of what happens during the course of your day depends largely on your reaction. Have a positive attitude and see how your morale increases and things get better! Choose right!

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Train yourself to remain polite even in the most difficult situation. Stand your ground firmly but politely. Let them curse and swear. Choose to rise above cheap, verbal abuse which is widespread today. Sooner or later they will realize their mistake and how offensive they were!

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The truth is many of us spend a lot of time inside our own mind, overthinking, worrying about what is to come, regretting past events and generally complaining about life. These cause stress and sap your energy. Train your mind to think positive. You will lead a more content life!

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What goes around comes around. Whatever you give, comes back to you. What you sow, you reap. Give kindness, compassion, joy, encouragement, motivation and it will find its way back to you somehow, someday. Do you get the drift? So why would anyone want to spread negativity?

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Do you have friends who are constantly complaining about other people or judging other people. They will make no effort to hide their discontent and they will try to drag you into their pit of despair, except they will not even realize that they are the source of the discontent!

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Many people make the mistake thinking that a confident person is the one who is better than everyone else. That is far from the truth. Confidence isn't strutting into a room thinking you're better than everyone else; it's walking in not having to compare yourself to anyone.

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The most important thing you can do when you have done something wrong is to have the courage to own up and admit your fault. Aplogise to the people you have wronged. Do not look for excuses or scapegoats. A sincere apology shows you are taking responsibility for your own action.

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Being quiet and gentle does not mean you are weak. Such people show deep, inner strength that is under control. It is knowing when to speak and when to listen; when to take action and when to wait. Do not underestimate such people. They walk the earth with the greatest strength!

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When you want to give advice, do so in such a way that people will want to listen to you. Do not be mean and hurtful. Do not use harsh words and turn them off. Be genuine in wanting to correct their ways and help them get back on track. Your sincerity will long be remembered.

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Even the nicest people have their limits! Do not push them too far; do not try to reach those limits. Once the boundary is crossed, they will never be the same person you used to know and you will only have yourself to blame! If you cannot be kind, remain quiet. Do not hurt people!

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Some love being controversial and argumentative just to get recognition in life. They love making headlines and being in the limelight. Be careful. Think of the consequences when you are alone in your grave or worse having to defend yourself before your Creator on Judgement Day!

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The evil eye is real and should not be taken lightly. Most people are negligent in protecting themselves and do not worry about showing off their blessings; posting every detail of their life on social media. Know that not everyone who sees your story will be happy for you!

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Keep praying for patience and contentment. We live in such a materialistic world that it can be hard to resist stuff you see around you. Do not be tempted to have the latest in everything; fashion, electronic gadgets, computers and cars. Spend that money on a good cause instead!

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Do not measure worldly success by a rich lifestyle and all the modern day trappings. Measure it by the number of hearts you have touched, the faces who smile when they hear your name, the things people say about you in your absence! That is a life well lived! Strive to get there!

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How worthy you are to others depends on your words. Choose them wisely. Once spoken, you cannot undo them. Many people are careless with their words. They curse, swear, hurl vulgarities, use harsh words which hurt others in the process. Do not live to regret what you uttered!

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The evil eye is real. Protect yourself as best you can. Take precautions. For many, this will be hard because we live in such a self-serving society today. We want to show off! There is a need within many of us to be validated and accepted by others; even people we do not know!

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Family interference is one of the reasons why marriages fail. When spouses share personal or internal problems with family members, be prepared for trouble. Problems get distorted. Problems become larger than life. Try and settle your disputes without taking them to others.

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You can forgive completely but still choose to keep a safe distance from that person to protect yourself from unwanted harm or a repeat of what happened in the first place. Forgiving doesn't require you to embrace or interact with the one you forgave. Do not confuse the two.

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Forgive the one who wronged you for your own sake. You will still remember what happened, but you will no longer be bound by it. But remember, forgiveness is a process. It may not happen immediately. It requires strength and you are working towards it! That is all that matters!

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Today, bullying no longer occurs only in schools. Social media has provided another way for bullies who seek to demean others. Home is no longer safe for victims of bullying; a Facebook status can hurt just as much, if not more, than hearing the typed words spoken out loud!

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Misunderstanding often leads to grudges. When we hold a grudge, we give someone power over our emotions. Without forgiveness, it is easy to let things get out of hand. When we forgive, our doors and avenues to goodness open up. It puts our relationship with Him back on track!

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If your intent is wrong, your deeds done for the sake of humankind will come to nought. Check your intentions often. Because you do not want to fall into the trap; you think you are doing a lot but when you arrive on Judgement Day, you are a bankrupt! That would be devastating!

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We live in angry times. All the sharing on social media makes it worse. Learn to control your innermost urge to retaliate. You do not have to give as good as you got! If you do not slow down when you start to see red, you can do significant damage to your life. Keep the peace!

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Making peace with your inner self is important. It starts from the inside first. It could mean mending broken relationships that have been bugging you, strengthening existing ones or simply making sense of your negative feelings. Let go of resentments. Do not wait. Start now.

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Hypocrites love to gossip, they love to know what everyone else is doing; their ins and outs. They may even make up gossip if it is not juicy enough. It can be hurtful and upsetting when you are the subject of the untruthful gossip. Confront them peacefully and pray for them!

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We all have our scars. We all have broken pieces. But the beauty in all that is they come together to create the real you! The you who survived the pain and hardship, the you who emerged stronger, kinder and more compassionate! The you who is ready for whatever life dishes out!

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Hiding pain under a smile is not easy. It can be one of the hardest things to do. You do it when you care about others more than you do for yourself. But remember, a smile can hide so much; anxiety, fear, pain, sadness, tears. But they reflect one main thing. Inner strength!

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Arrogance is being full of yourself, you're always right. You strut around like you know everything. Confidence is humble, quiet and doesn't shout. You are full of useful knowledge and you share it in a manner that does not make the other person feel ignorant! Know the difference!

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Remember, nothing lasts. Next year, you are unlikely to be in the same place that you are now. Things happen, people change. That is life. New happenings await you. New blessings. New trials. New opportunities. So always be aware and keep your focus. Change is the only constant.

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It is human nature to always want the best view when we are in a beautiful place. That is what we will have in Paradise. Sadly, many of us have become distracted and. absorbed by this temporary world and forgotten our purpose and goals for our Hereafter. Strive to get back on track!

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Pray for those you love. Pray for those who hate you. Pray for those who try to harm you. Why? Because prayer is the most precious gift you can give someone and a good prayer may soften their heart and lead them to be guided. Imagine the rewards that await you! Keep praying!

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You are disappointed not because of other people is behavior but because of your own expectations. Accept the fact that people will let you down. Time and again. They will show you their true colours eventually. Learn to expect only from the One who made you. He always delivers!

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Negative thoughts produce bad feelings like anger, envy, jealousy, hatred, anxiety, etc. These are thoughts about the world, our wealth, our status, people we do not like or who have wronged us... Detach your heart from these worldly things which do not last. Feel the relief!

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We criticize others because we are impatient. We do not tolerate those who behave differently. We expect people to behave like us. When we focus on someone else is flaw, we stop seeing the person. We just see their mistakes. Get rid of this bad habit. Work to improve ourselves!

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The truth is you are going to be slandered from time to time, so do not allow it to throw you into emotional turmoil when it happens. If you feel the need to defend yourself against a lie, the best approach is to give yourself time to cool off. Think the matter through calmly.

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Someone did you wrong? Learn to let it go. The truth is they will ruin more of your life if you allow them to invade your mind like a virus. This will in turn affect the quality of your life. The best thing to do is to move on. Show that you are strong enough to take control.

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Many people crop, tweak, add filters and manipulate their images to present an impression of how they want to be perceived. Separating reality from the online image can be tough. Often, young people end up looking harshly at themselves as a result. They think they are failures!

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No matter how negative you may feel, always try and communicate in as positive a manner as possible. If you choose words that are negative, that is the impression you will leave with the person on the receiving end. So do not respond when you are angry or when others annoy you!

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We are only human and we tend to feel down or upset at times. But do not allow such feelings to interfere with how you communicate with others. It is easy to lash out and vent your anger but learn to control yourself. It is one of the hardest things to do. But the rewards are great!

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Be wary of toxic people around you. Those who come in to lower your self-esteem. Those who come into your life and leave you worse off than you were before. They will hinder your growth and cause you misery. Learn to spot them. Do not get involved with them. Say a prayer for them.

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Sometimes change means starting over. Do not be afraid to do that. At times, you need to overhaul your life to see your steps ahead. So whatever you are experiencing, do not be afraid to start over. This time, you are not starting from scratch but you are starting from experience!

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What have we become today? We hardly speak to people anymore. Even phone calls are being replaced by WhatsApp. We hide our feelings and turn them into tweets and blogposts. Our memories are merely a collection of photos on Instagram. Let us strive not to lose the human touch!

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Social media has given a voice to the voiceless. Our videos, posts and comments online are a reflection of who we are and what we stand for. Unfortunately, people with ill intent use them to spew hate and spread ignorance. Do not let their comments affect you. Such people need help!

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Love, trust and mutual respect are the bedrock of a solid marriage. It does not come easy. It is hard work and has to be nurtured daily. Do not let mistrust creep into the equation. Do not give your spouse reason to mistrust you. Once trust is broken, it will not be the same again.

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Keep negativity out of your life at all costs. Do not focus on the negatives, not just today but every day because it will only eat at your soul, slowly but surely. You will become a thankless person, always nitpicking over tiny details. Keep reminding yourself of the blessings!

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Publicizing a sin is so much more serious than the sin itself because it carries with it a level of arrogance and promotion of illicit behavior. Instead of remorse over committing the sin, we are more caught up in trying to figure out how to show off what we did to our friends!

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Beware the hypocrite. He is always looking for faults or advising you about your life, job, habits, etc. But he never follows his own advice. Some have an agenda and can hurt your self-confidence badly. Do not give your time to deceitful people, pretending to be what they are not!

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Take time out to disconnect from your surroundings occasionally. Enjoy your own company because it is easy to get overwhelmed by life and all that it offers. Keep your heart connected to the One who made you and you will achieve that inner peace and contentment that we all badly need!

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Are you among those who when asked for advice, you hardly ever try to understand the person is unique situation and needs; you give advice based on your own bitterness and cynicism; you live in a constant state of dissatisfaction. If that is you, it is time to be more compassionate!

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Stop stressing yourself over how your life is going to turn out. Nobody has it all figured out. Only the One who made you knows what will happen. So live your life the best way you can and attach your heart to the One who matters most. It is one sure way to attain contentment!

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Are you guilty of deriving pleasure from the misfortune of others? Something bad happens to someone else and you secretly take pleasure from it. Be careful. It shows a poisonous heart which willl get worse if you do not check it. Empathize, be kind and show compassion instead!

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The past is the past. You can't change it and whatever has happened is out of your control. Truth is, the past can hurt, but it's also what you make of it. Choose to let those memories go. Learn whatever lessons you can but do not dwell and keep harping on them. Lighten your load!

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When you are always making assumptions about others, you damage your capacity to relate to them. You are always assuming you know how they think and feel, so you stop listening and communicating, leading to misunderstanding. Be mindful of this. It can spiral into negative thinking!

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Do not take anything for granted. You never know when you'll have it for the last time. Life is a precious gift, cherish every moment while you can. It is truly such a blessing to be alive and to be able to impact the lives of others. You will never know whose life you are touching.

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Today, it's just so easy to take pictures of all the good things going on in your life, post them on social media and to a random person looking at your feed it may look like that's how your life always is. Who are we fooling? Ourselves! Be wary not to believe your online life!

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Beautiful patience is a gift. Not everyone has it. It is the ability to accept what happens at the first sign of a calamity and the ability to hold on to that patience till the trial is over. No complaining, no whinging, just a calm accepting heart from the start till the end!

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When you encounter hate in any form, in speech or action, you must immediately denounce it, report it and stop it. It is your duty. It should not be tolerated whether in our everday lives, on main stream or social media. Say no to hate. Say no to violence! End the vicious cycle!

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Being successful and having everything does not define your self-worth. Being positive is one of the main things you need for survival. The ability to see the glass half full rather than half empty is the key to being happy and appreciating where you are in life. Thank Him always!

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In this make believe world of social media, people will only show you what they want you to see. Remember, everyone has a chapter in their lives where they do not read out loud. So do not be fooled by the perfect front that you often see. You would be foolish to believe all that.

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Social media trolls take it upon themselves to make negative, derogatory and even abusive comments about everything you say or do. They are acknowledging the impact you have on others and are jealous of the good you do. Ignore them and their agenda. Smile and carry on your good work!

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We are careful what we put into our mouths, choosing our foods meticulously so that they keep our bodies functioning well. The same should apply to what comes out of our mouths. If we choose to spew hateful, curse and swear words, imagine how that would impact the ones affected.

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When things are smooth, when everything is easy, you do not learn much; you are hardly growing as a person. Remember, the greatest lessons are learnt when you go through hardship and the storms of life. Embrace them and know that you will emerge stronger and better than before!

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The truth is always more important than what others think of you. However, there is a way of presenting the truth. There is no need to insult, abuse and defame others in the process. Kind words with wisdom, showing true concern and care are more likely to have the desired impact.

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Forgiveness can be more challenging with family because deeper emotions are involved when a family member hurts us. Choosing not to forgive and breaking ties of kinship is wrong. So do the right thing and forgive because forgiveness helps both sides! It will give you peace of mind!

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If you still think money is the route to happiness, you are wrong. A healthy body, a tranquil soul, a pure heart, a caring spouse and children, a mother is love; these are just some of the things that will give meaning to your life. All the wealth in the world cannot buy you that!

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Beware the toxic friends who will never compliment you. They will never have a good word or congratulate you on your achievements. In fact, they're much more likely to kick you when you're down. It is always about them. They will drain you of all your energy! Keep your distance!

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All the wealth you painstakingly amass will remain here. You will not be able to take one single thing with you. Always remember this. What are you gaining really, and at what price? Are you sacrificing your Hereafter for some glitz and glamour of this world that many call luxury?

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There are people who will not hesitate to provoke you, trying their best to bring out the worst in you. When they have achieved that, they will play the victim and make you feel bad. Be mindful of such people. They really need help. Try your best to remain calm. Keep your composure!

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Parenting is not an easy task. But no matter what obstacles you face, keep going. Keep leading by example. Keep being a role model for your children. The good we teach our children stays with them and will become a part of their daily lives. So plant good seeds in their hearts!

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Admit your mistakes. It is a good trait to have and it gains respect from the ones around you because it shows both humility and your willingness to learn. Remember, it is easy to claim responsibility when things go well, but it is hard when they do not. Do not look for scapegoats!

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We need to realize that our constant need to complain has a simple and fundamental reason: we lack of a sense of contentment. The truth is we are often dissatisfied and it has taken the place of contentment in our hearts. So everything that we say is a reflection of how we feel!

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Do not engage friends who speak ill of their spouses to you. No matter how close you are to them, learn to keep friendship separate from their personal life. You have to draw the line. The erring spouses could have repented and changed their ways and you are still bad mouthing them.

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Beware the negativity that keeps popping up in your mind. At times, this is related to a setback you have had. You need to counter it and do not worry what people may think. They will talk anyway. You cannot stop them. What you can do is to focus on the positive and goodness around you!

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The company you keep says a lot about you. Friends have a big influence over how you feel, think and behave. Beware the ones who will mould you to become like them. Some will control you till you mimic their behaviour. If you are weak-willed, chances are you will succumb and cave in!

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When we hear bad about others, we're so quick to believe it. But when we hear good about them, we find it hard to believe. It shouldn't be so for a true believer. Do not believe the bad about others until it is proven beyond any doubt and if it doesn't concern you, stay out of it.

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What is this life but a marathon, one that is customised for each and every person. To win this race, you must not give up. You must keep going and cross the finish line. There will be many distractions along the way. Do not give in to them. Keep your heart and mind focused on your goal.

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Learn not to tell people more than they need to know. This can be difficult but be conscious of the information that you choose to divulge. People have no business to know everything about you. The less you tell, the better for you. It can save you from a whole lot of trouble.

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Pray for those who've passed away and prepare for the day you and I will leave this world. Today, we've lost a legend. Ebrahim Gangat. You were loved by millions and will surely be missed. Your legacy lives on. May your shortcomings be forgiven and may you be granted Paradise. Aameen.

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You become what you constantly think about. If you think you cannot, you probably will not make it. If you think you are a failure, you will end up not doing anything significant in life. If you think negative thoughts always, you will end up with negative results. Guard your thoughts!

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We are bombarded with the temptation to be popular daily. The pressure to do what others are doing. Do not fall into this trap. Even if everyone is doing it, wrong is never right. Evil, wrongdoings and darkness will never be the truth, even if popular. Let your faith stand firm!

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People with large egos can be difficult to deal with. Signs of a big ego include over confidence, blindness to personal flaws, focus on self over others and difficulty seeing other points of view. Be wary of such people. They may not take kindly to advice. Pray for them instead!

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There is no doubt that life can be incredibly hard at times. The sick, terminally ill, sadness, oppression, adversity. The list goes on. But the one thing we have is our ability to help someone in their time of need. Let them know that someone cares. What a difference it makes!

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Do not believe anyone who says that he has it all together; there is no such thing. Every single one of us is fighting an unseen battle that is often hidden by a brave exterior. That's why it is so important to be compassionate. Always try and put yourself in someone else is shoes!

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Social media is making us forget how to interact with people in real-life. For some, posting what they want others to see helps them feel better about themselves, making them feel they are connected to others. But technology is not life. Spend more time with people! Not devices!

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We often hear people say the grass is greener on the other side. That is not true. Stop comparing your lawn with someone else is. The truth is it is greener where you water it! It is greener where you nurture it. Focus on the major things in life and you will see how it will thrive!

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You will learn more from the bad days than the good days because they are designed to toughen you, provided you learn the life lessons attached to them. Some do not and they get stuck at a certain level because they refuse to or cannot see the whole picture yet! Pray for guidance!

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Some people just cannot communicate in a straightforward manner. They will use sarcasm as a defence mechanism, send mixed signals or act like nothing is wrong. If you cannot help such people, stay away from them. Life is complicated enough without having to second-guess others!

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Couples need to work together to keep outside forces that may try to break them or their family. At times, this could be in the form of in-laws or the extended family. Hold your ground firmly and respectfully. You will end up with longer lasting and happier married lives together!

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When you stain your tongue with slander, backbiting and gossip, your spirituality goes down significantly. You may think you are harming the other person but in actual fact, you are harming yourself. So learn to hold your tongue because it has the power to make you or break you!

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If you are often stressed, anxious, feel like a failure or you're not doing what you think you should be doing in life, consider this. Start serving others. You will feel a sense of self worth that you are actually helping someone and making a difference. See how your life changes!

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In a world where there is so much fake, find it in your heart to be yourself. Be you. Do not be a hypocrite. No apologies. Say no when you do not want something. Do not be forced into saying yes. Be honest. Be authentic. Do not be part of anything fake. Your heart will be at peace!

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Be wary of those who lie to make themselves feel good. They have an ego problem. They discredit others out of jealousy, always wanting to be one up and to show the world that they are the good ones. It will not last. The truth will out. It will lead to their own downfall eventually!

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Be kind to people. Never think you're better than others. The trouble with those who appear pious is that they think they are on a higher level and scoff at everyone else who may seem less pious! It is a terrible trait to have. Do not be hard on others. Piety comes with gentleness.

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In our bid to solve problems, we sometimes create even bigger problems. Repairing a burst pipe requires glue. Using a drill will destroy whatever remains of the pipe. Be wary. In a fit of rage, we may cause greater loss to ourselves instead of resolving the issue we are facing.

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Have the courage to walk away from the drama and people who create it around you. It is most often about them and not you. Surround yourself with those who support you and believe in you. Focus on the positive. Love those who treat you well, pray for the ones who do not! They need it!

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As you go about spreading goodness and lending a hand to others, remember that you are just as important as other people. Learn to say no when your obligations and responsibilities get too much. Do not spread yourself so thin that you will end up no good for yourself or anyone else!

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Always remind yourself that this life is short. It is like a visa given to you for a temporary stay. So keep the Hereafter in mind and learn to do things which will add value to your life. Choose virtuous, righteous people as friends; those who will keep you on the straight path!

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Learn to take things in your stride. Ups and downs happen to everyone. Remember, we'll all experience pain, hardship, heartache, disappointment, betrayal, loss, fear, loneliness, grief and suffering. It is your ability to react to them correctly that will determine your life story.

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Patience is a quality of the heart. The more patient you are, the better person you become. An effective way to strengthen our patience is through the link with our Creator. Do not lose that link. Exercise patience for His sake and He will not let you down in your darkest moments.

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Do not give up now. You have come this far. The difficult days will make way for happier days soon enough. Remember, nothing lasts. So when you see a day where you think you cannot possibly get out of bed to face the world, do not worry or panic. Better and brighter days are ahead!

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Be wary when angry. When you react in anger thinking you must hurt those who hurt you, think again. In fact, you are hurting yourself. That is why it is always better to calm down and act rationally later on. When you choose to react immediately, the consequences can be disastrous!

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Some get a big thrill from boasting about their achievements or showing off their possessions. They believe that they are better than others. They may even end up pushing people around. That is wrong. Remember, whatever you have, someone will have more! That is life! Stay humble!

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Many want to marry but they forget that staying married is hard work. It does not just happen. Easy was never part of the agreement. Do not think divorce is the easy way out because it is not. Work hard at your marriage. Remember, everything in life improves when we work at it!

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Before pointing a finger, nitpicking on others or condemning another person's shortcomings, do remember that we are all sinners. No one is prefect. We are all answerable to our Creator. He is All-Knowing. So choose to advise with wisdom and patience over exposing people is faults!

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If you are true to yourself, whatever bad someone tries to do or whatever they did to embarrass you can only strengthen you. Do not worry about the plotters and evil doers, they will have their day. Remember, the consequences of their actions will have to be dealt with eventually.

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Be mindful of the online world. When you let yourself go, you run into the danger of slipping too far into it and losing a sense of real life, real self and real priorities. It can distract people so much from reality that they may forget who they really are! It is happening now!

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Remember, the ones who need kindness the most are the ones who are strangers to it. Their hearts are hard and cold; they would generally have little or no regard about how their words and actions affect others. Still, be kind to them because your actions reflect who you truly are!

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Do not think that there are people with a problem-free life out there. Every single person is fighting a battle, often hidden by a brave front. That is why it is important to have good character and conduct. Remember, this world will break you. So lend a hand and have a good heart!

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We are all guests in this world. As the rule goes, all guests will have to leave sooner or later. Death is the common factor for all. If this becomes the cornerstone of our lives, then it gets easier to rid our hearts of animosity, hatred, jealousy, envy, grudge and hostility!

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Beware the gossiper. He usually has bad intent. He speaks negatively about others and belittle their worth to increase his own. If you are in the company of such people and the talk turns negative, look for ways to bring it back to a positive focus that is not belittling to others.

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Do not let negative people ruin your positive mindset. Let them go before they completely infiltrate your mind. Such people have issues with themselves and with everything and everyone around them. Make a conscious effort to stay away from them. Do not entertain such friendship!

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If you are tempted to share something on social media, investigate before you do. Anything you post comes from you, which means you are responsible for it is accuracy, even if you got it from somewhere else. Things can come back to haunt you in the most unimaginable way. Be wary.

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Train yourself not to stress over negative comments made about you on social media. In fact, do not respond. People hide behind their screens to release their frustrations. Their mean words and baseless allegations say more about them than anyone else. Do not lose sleep over them.

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Your time is the most valuable gift you can give to your family. Money comes and goes but the memories will stay far beyond all that. The strong bond you develop will last a long while. Start giving the gift of time before it is too late. Do not put it off because life is too short!

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Do not feel that you have to tell everyone what you have been up to in your life. You do not! Nobody needs to know everything. Do not announce it on social media too because having people with eyes that constantly pry into your private life is not healthy. It attracts envy and hatred.

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Know when to get involved and when to lay off. Some things just are not worth your energy. There is too much going on around us and it is easy to get sucked into other people is drama. Learn to take a step back and look at things in perspective. Do not be too quick to take the plunge.

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Do not let success go to your head. Be the first to apologize for your mistakes. You will never learn anything or impress anyone by making excuses and shifting the blame. Treat everyone with dignity and respect. You may be successful, but that does not make you better than anyone else!

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The reason many people are on social media is because they want attention. It is measured by the number of likes, views, retweets, comments etc. Remember, you do not have to rely on others for your confidence and self-esteem. Disengage from seeking attention. Love yourself first!

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Why cannot we be happy for others when they achieve something? As in truly happy; no snide remarks or sarcastic comments. It all stems from the heart. The positive energy you exude towards others will come back to you. So the next time, you hear such news, celebrate, do not hate!

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Do not be disheartened if you cannot help much with charity in terms of material stuff. You can always be the one who adds value to the lives of others. Find ways to be a source of encouragement everywhere you go. Spread goodness and kindness always. It will all come back to you.

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Drawing inspiration from another person is allowed. But there are dangers of looking to so-called celebrities as role models. Remember, they are just people. It's easy to forget this when society elevates them to superhuman status. They are not. They make mistakes like all of us!

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Take a long, hard look at yourself in the mirror. See if the person staring back at you is the person you want to be. Do this often as it is a good form of self-reflection. There is always room for improvement. Focus on trying to be a better person today than you were yesterday.

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Some people just thrive being in the spotlight. They put on a show for everyone to see. They love being praised; it does wonders to their egos. They will create dramas just to be the centre of focus. Minimize your dealings with them if possible. Do not get drawn into their circle.

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Do not be narrow-minded and think of doing things only for yourself. It will frustrate you; you will want something more. Learn to do things for others. Learn to help any which way you can. When you help others, it opens the door for you to be blessed! Do it without batting an eyelid.

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Do not make it your business to gossip about those who are trying hard to improve themselves. Pray for them instead. Motivate and encourage, add a good word but never put them down. Do not be arrogant and think you have got it all good. No one is perfect. We are all a work in progress.

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If there is nothing more important in one is life than prayer, why is it that we do not place enough importance on it. Some even neglect it. How can we expect to have success in this world and the next when we turn a deaf ear to the call to success daily? Let's change our priorities

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Some will not understand you. Some will not support you. Some will leave you. Some will not even care if you are down in the dumps. But no matter what others put you through, your Creator will always be there for you. He knows every moment of your struggle. He will compensate you greatly

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Do not engage small-minded, petty people unless you are able to help them. What you say and do will never be good enough for them. They will make your life difficult. Focus on controlling our own actions. We cannot allow ourselves to get sucked into their madness or we will end up hurt!

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Remember, no one in your life is perfect. Stop expecting them to be perfect. There is no such thing. Such people do not exist. You are setting yourself up for a huge disappointment if you expect perfection. We are all humans and we make mistakes. Accept it and you will be a lot happier!

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You are allowed to disagree with others, state your opinion respectfully but NEVER get physical or violent. This quality makes us distinct from animals! So be civilised, listen to what others are saying but avoid knee-jerk reactions. It would save you from a whole lot of regret!

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Sometimes what is not said is the more powerful message. But we are too busy speaking our minds that we miss the clues. The one who says she is fine but has eyes full of tears. The one who smiles because she is too sad to cry. Even the strongest have their breaking points. Be kind

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When you want to correct others, you have to do it gently without being distasteful. Sometimes when you give advice, people become more aggressive and even worse off than they were before you gave them advice because of the way you did it. Choose the kindest words and be sincere!

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Many think that marriage is magical and that love can change all your woes. When it fades or leaves, at least from time to time, they think that means the marriage should end. Wrong! Marriages take work. They do not happen by magic and do not stay alive without investing in them!

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Instead of comparing yourself to others, compare your own progress in life. How you were before to how you are today; your former self to your present self. If you have made progress and you are doing your best to stay on the straight path, you are on the right track! Keep going.

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Learn not to get upset when people say bad things about you. Do not waste your energy with negative emotions. They will only drain you. Remember, people will not bother about those who are not making an impact in life! Continue doing what you do best and let others say what they will!

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Non-stop complaining to anyone who will listen to you while at the same time wallowing in self-pity and negativity is wrong. More so if you have no desire to solve the matter. Instead, try choosing thoughts that will lead to a solution. Remember the blessings He has bestowed on us.

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Do you suffer from the disease where you constantly seek the approval of others? People-pleasers are the go-to person who will always change their plans at a moment is notice. The one who will always say yes. The one who never says no. If you are, it is time to rethink your life!

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Gossip is verbal poison. It seeks to defame and discredit others. It is hurtful and dangerous. It is the quickest way to destroy trust and friendships. Do not take it lightly. You may think it is harmless but you are actually ruining someone is reputation. You will pay a high price for it.

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Worrying about what happened yesterday will not change anything. Learn from it. Move on. Worrying about tomorrow is also futile because we do not know what it holds. Take it one step at a time, one day at a time. Trust His Plans and do not let worry rob you of life is precious moments!

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Learn to listen more. As simple as it sounds, listening is a skill, an art and a discipline. Pay attention to what someone is saying. Listen to his words. It is coming from his heart. The mouth will reveal what the heart feels. Listening can save you from a whole lot of trouble!

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Always take the high road and do the right thing, even if it may not be easy or popular with most. Choose the course of action which is moral or acceptable and which is least likely to harm or upset other people. It is challenging because life is tough but the rewards are tremendous

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Some people only feel worthy when they surround themselves with important people. Depending on others to make you feel good is like chasing a moving target. You can't control what other people think of you and certainly can't please everyone all the time. So do not waste your time

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Do not keep looking for what is missing in our lives. Learn to see the blessings that are actually there. Instead of focusing on what we have, we keep looking and stressing over what we do not have. When we see others, we think their lives are always grander than ours. That is a myth

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Choose kindness above all else. Kind people use positivity as a lantern to create more light. That is because they have seen what negativity can do to you. They make time for others in a world that does not wait for anyone. It takes strength to shake off all the bad and move ahead!

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Everything you do comes back to you; whether good or bad. You are a reflection of what you put out into the world. If you constantly use and abuse people, life will use and abuse you. If you dedicate your life to doing good, you will be rewarded. Be positive, kind and compassionate.

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If you find yourself and your conversation focusing on people; what is going on in their lives, their relationships, their social status etc, then you have a serious problem on your hand. You need to get out of that mould; focus on yourself rather than being concerned with others.

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Let it go. The things that have happened in the past, the things that are not happening right now, let it go. If you want to move on, stop looking back on your past. That part of your life is over. If you want to see the light, stop holding yourself in the darkness of your past.

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The real test of sincerity is to see whether a person will help you even if he knows he will get nothing in return from you. The truth is anyone can help when there is something to gain in return; but to help when there is nothing to be gained shows true love and a beautiful heart!

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Choose your friends wisely. It is always easier to pull people down than to build them up. Make sure your circle of friends will do just that; moving you in the right direction. They should be building you up rather than tearing you down. If you have such friends, treasure them!

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Some people will not hesitate to use you to serve their purpose. Whatever you do, do not get involved in their drama if they try to make you take sides. There is always two sides to a story. Be fair, stay positive and do not pit one against the other. Let them resolve their differences!

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A good rule to live by; if you stop fueling a fire, it will burn itself out. If you stop fueling an argument with harsh words, it will stop eventually. But if you choose to engage with hurtful words it will get worse. The choice is yours. Learn to keep the peace as best you can.

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Do not just focus on how you can make your life better, look for ways to make someone else is life better too. Often, it is hard to find someone willing to go out of their way to help those in need. When you are able to do that, then you will achieve satisfaction and true contentment.

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Try and do something each day to bring a smile on your parents face. Show them the love and appreciation that they deserve for all that they have done for you. Do not be among those who neglect them and see their worth only after they have left this world. Do not live with the regret!

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Do not be fooled into thinking that everyone is your friend. Just because they hang around you does not mean they are your friends. People pretend well. They will laugh with you and joke around with you. At the end of the day, when push comes to shove, they will be exposed. Take heed.

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Learn to use other is success as inspiration. Instead of focusing on our failure, we can see their achievement as something to motivate us. If he did it, so can we; our time will come! We can be proactive, evaluate their success and see how we can apply it to improve our own lives.

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Do not pay heed to people who talk behind your back. You cannot stop them. What everyone else has to say, think, or feel about how you live your life does not and should not affect your happiness or state of mind. It is really about them, not you. Realize this before it's too late.

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Treat your spouse kindly and do not resort to abuse in any form. Lack of kindness is often the source of marital conflicts and the cause of most divorce. Anger, selfish or irresponsible behavior and criticism have a huge impact on kindness. It will threaten your marriage bit by bit!

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Do not think that you have nothing to offer those around you, no matter how insignificant you feel it is. Always remember that you add value to the people you mix with. You have something to give everyone; whether it is your time, a smile, a prayer, an encouraging word or lend a hand!

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Stop labelling people. We are conditioned to judge people based on their appearance, behavior, job etc. It happens subconsciously, we do not even realize it. Labels limit others and limit interaction. Even labels with good intentions, can create resentment and the desire for revenge.

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Our use of technology is causing a huge family divide because we just cannot put down our phones. Parents and children spend hours on mobile devices, cutting down the time for face to face interaction. Make an effort to reduce the use of your devices and start building relationships.

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At times, we condemn good people because we disagree with them over a few issues. We refuse to see the good they are doing. Disagreements do not automatically make a person extreme, bad or evil. Learn to distinguish between the one who respectfully disagrees and the one who is evil!

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Being betrayed is hard to live with. The sorrow of betrayal doesn't come all at once but in stages, as you begin to realise the extent. Once trust is violated, old emotions and pain are always at the back of your mind. So do not betray trust for it will be hard to restore what is lost!

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Laziness and putting things off are all part of the Devil is plan. If you keep procrastinating, before you know it, years have gone by. But what is worse is you may not live to do it as no one is promised tomorrow. You will never know when all this will end. Do not delay. Act on it now!

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Smokers become very defensive when reminded that they need to quit the bad habit. There are so many reasons to do so; it is a waste of money, secondhand smoke harms others and smoking actually kills! Take control of your life before it is too late. Be strong and quit it once and for all!

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Sins are almost always associated with an accompanying sense of guilt. While we can always turn a blind eye to those guilty feelings, we know that such guilt will slowly chip away at our happiness. Repentance will remove that guilt and fill our hearts with calmness and tranquility!

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You should know by now that people will speculate, they will think the worst of you, they will judge, assume, gossip and backbite. When told the truth, most will not even bother to correct themselves. Such is the state of humankind today. Protect yourself. Stay away from such sinful acts!

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You have got to be patient in this journey called LIFE. It will make you, it will break you. You will meet people along the way who will render help and those who will leave you by the wayside. But if you keep asking the One who made you, He will never disappoint. So never stop asking!

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Some people will go out of their way to lie like it is the only truth. They mislead the unsuspecting without batting an eyelid. Be careful of fake news, false information and lies disguised as the truth. Always verify important information. Do not believe everything you hear or read!

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Hiding pain under a smile is not easy. It can be one of the hardest things to do. You do it when you care about others more than you do for yourself. But remember, a smile can hide so much.. fear, pain, sadness, tears. But they reflect one main thing. Strength!

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The truth is we are becoming dissatisfied with what we have, what we see and do because, as soon as we go online, we see someone who has achieved, seen or done something better. Or at least, that is how they have made it look. Do not let social media ruin your life!

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Whatever you do, do not fall into this trap. Do not try to paint an awful picture of someone else in order to paint a perfect picture of yourself. It will come back to haunt you and it will not be a beautiful sight. Remember, what goes around comes around. Take heed!

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Do not hold on to grudges. Grudges are for those who insist that they are owed something. It is one sure way to become miserable. Let it go and heal your heart. You will find it easier to move on. Looking back is not going to help you. Moving forward is what we must do.

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Each day that you spend with negative thoughts, crying over what others may have done to you, feeling hopeless and that life is meaningless, is a day wasted. Pick yourself up. Learn to energise yourself. Be positive. Be strong. Be hopeful. Do not give up on life!

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Do you know that we judge others because we are insecure? When we judge, we are often projecting something we do not want to feel about ourselves or something that we feel is missing in our own lives. Think about this the next time you are tempted to pass judgement!

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Why do you feel the need to answer to your critics? You do not have to. You do not have to try and prove to people who you are. Your journey is yours alone. Remain steadfast. Honour Him. He will work things out for you in the end. Just remain calm and bear patience.

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For many of us, saying no is hard! We want others to like us, accept us; we want to meet their expectations and please them. Learn to say no when you really mean no because it is good for your well-being. We need time out; time for ourselves. Do not feel guilty!

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It is all part of life. People will cause you pain, hurt you, put you down, make you feel bad about yourself. It is how you react that will determine the outcome. Remember, they are powerless until you choose to empower them. Do not give them the ammunition they need!

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Ultimately, even the greatest of deeds can be of no benefit if the hearts are sick; if the hearts are corrupt; if the hearts are laced with envy, pride, jealousy, hatred etc. So pay great attention to the state of your heart because everything you do flows from it!

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When you want to give advice, do so in such a way that people would want to listen to you. Do not be mean and hurtful. Do not use harsh words. Do not put people down. Be genuine and nurturing in wanting to correct them, mend their ways and help them get back on track.

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Why do we often feel like we can speak with authority on someone is life? How can we when we have not experienced what the other person has; we have not walked in their shoes. We have the tendency to stereotype people and think like we know it all. The truth is we do not!

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A heart does not turn cold unless it has been treated badly for a long while. Yet, some will still endure and not show it. So cherish all those with good hearts in your life. Do not take them for granted. Be compassionate. Learn to show them the gratitude they deserve!

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Be less quick to react to people or situations. Often, they are powerless when you are less reactive. When people provoke you, try distancing yourself from them. They want you to lose your cool and get angry. Do not give in to them. Train yourself to stay calm instead.

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There will be times when you feel like everything that could possibly go wrong is going wrong. You feel like it is the end of the road for you and you are stuck in a rut. Remember, sometimes you have to go through the roughest patch to arrive at your best. Be patient!

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Do not be obsessed with things that went wrong or did not work out. That is life in a nutshell. Keep going. You will never win this race of life if you keep looking back. The mistakes you have made do not define who you are today. Think positive that things will get better!

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Protect your good deeds at all costs. Foolish is the one who does a lot of good but does not control his tongue and engages in backbiting, gossip and slander without batting an eyelid. He may turn up Judgement Day as a bankrupt, having to repay everyone he has wronged!

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Be serious about your repentance. The one who is truly remorseful is the one who is regretful of his past sins. He has a deep fear of falling into them again. And more importantly, he stays away from bad company and those who are likely to encourage him to sin again.

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Do not let the trials and pain that you are experiencing make you unkind. Everyone has struggles. Nobody knows what the other person is going through. There's too much suffering in the world already. Bear patience. It may be bitter now but the end result will be sweeter!

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Respect other people is time. We often have a very selfish attitude towards time; we expect everyone to adjust their schedules around us but we will not let anyone mess our day. Stop being self-centered and inflexible. Remember, what goes around, comes around Eventually!

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Today, we cannot seem to have a decent debate without getting angry. We are so caught up with putting our points across and we forget to listen to the other side. Always be fair, remain calm, respectful and committed to let the other party have their say. It is good ethics!

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Think well of others and see what it does to your heart. Each time you hear something bad about someone, do not spread it, give him the benefit of the doubt. Put yourself in his position. Protect yourself from worrisome thoughts that disturb your mind. Keep the peace!

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It does not matter if you have made mistakes. We all do. You do not need to carry around labels or mistakes from yesterday as if they define you. Whatever is done, is done. It is over. It does not have to brand you and affect the new choices you're making today. Go forward.

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When you are set on revenge and want to pay someone back, bear in mind that your actions will hurt you, not them. Learn to rise above it all. Revenge may give you a temporary high but it is not worth it in the long term because you are made for bigger and better things!

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Do not underestimate any act of kindness, no matter how small you think it is. Every act of kindness is a seed. All seeds will grow eventually and produce a harvest for you to reap the reward. Never tire of doing good and a bountiful harvest of blessings will be yours!

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Social media can take a toll on your self-confidence. Many today are using it to compare themselves with others. Many more use it as a benchmark for how much they have achieved in life. Do not fall into the trap. Always remind yourself of who you are and your self-worth.

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Learn to stay away from arguments and other people is drama. They sap your energy and rob your peace of mind. It takes a mature person to not get into an argument. Stay in your lane and watch from the sidelines if you must but do not get involved. Maintain your calmness.

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Just because you want peace around you does not mean agreeing with everyone all the time. You have to stand your ground and believe what you believe. But do not shove your thoughts and beliefs down someone is throat. Sometimes you have to agree to disagree. Be respectful.

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You can be the most successful person around but if you have no humility, you will not go far. There are many out there who strut around behaving like they own the world. It's a shame that those with less to boast about, do it the most. Such is the state of society today.

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Remember that kindness is a strength. It is not easy being kind, especially to those who are rude to you. On the other hand, being rude is easy. But it shows a sign of weakness. So choose to be strong and choose to leave a trail of kindness and goodness wherever you go!

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Be careful what you share on social media. Even among our family members, there may be people who hide ill feelings towards our achievements, beauty and lifestyles behind their smiles. The sad part is that most of the time, people envy what we know is not completely real!

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Do not worry about how people act. That is on them not you. Always choose kindness, that is under your control. Spread it far and wide, whichever way you can, even if it means giving a smile or a word of encouragement. Never underestimate how contagious being kind can be!

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Be extremely careful when making assumptions about others. When you lack complete information, you have to fill in the blanks yourself; based on what you may have heard from others. You connect the dots and as a result you are most likely to jump to the wrong conclusion!

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When life gets hard it is easy to think of the worst and stop dreaming of good things because it feels like they are unachievable. You will get days when you want to quit. But firm faith and the belief that after hardship, there will be ease, should see you through your journey!

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More are suffering from diseases of the heart because of social media. Jealousy, unhappiness, feelings of inadequacy take root when the difference between real or fake vanishes. Sadly, a lot of what we see is fake. Do not fall for it. Flaws and imperfections make us human!

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Beware the uncontrolled ego; it will self-obsess you until you cannot stop thinking about yourself! You are preoccupied with your own life and circumstances; sparing little or no thought about others. It can be destructive and the consequences are normally dire. Drop the ego!

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Be in the company of mature people. Those who admit they're wrong. Those who do not point fingers and blame others for their mistakes. Those who take responsibility for their actions. Those who do not hesitate to apologise. These are people who will help you grow in life!

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Do you feel like you are running around doing too much for this world, leaving little time for your Hereafter? You are not alone. It is easy to get sucked into one thing after another; there seems to be no end. Learn to pause and take stock of your life before it's too late.

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Each day is a mixture of good and bad, highs and lows, pleasure and pain, joy and sorrow. That is the cycle of life. Have the ability to see life beyond your own needs; empathize with others, give a little of yourself or your time to someone else for a change. Make a difference!

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There will always be critics. Some will be constructive while others just want to tear you down. Do not waste your time trying to convince the wrong people; just keep running your race and do what you do best. Focus on the positives and do not feel the need to engage them!

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What is this life? We all know that this worldly life is temporary. It is nothing but an illusion, play and amusement. It will trick you. It will entice you. And yet we spend a disproportionate amount of time on it, forgetting to build our everlasting life in the Hereafter.

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Give people the time and space they need to to heal from their hurt. Do not rush them. We all deal with trials and tribulations in our own unique ways. Lend an ear, lend a helping hand, make sure they know you are there if they need you. That is the best help you can offer!

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We all face challenges in life. And at times, it can feel like those challenges may just beat you down. But if you want something, you have to keep going. Do not let the idea of quitting enter your mind; stay strong. The people who win in life are the ones who do not quit.

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In this world, that is full of negativity and harsh criticism, be a beacon of hope and positivity. How difficult is it to say a good word, to encourage and motivate others? And if you cannot, at least do not hurt people with your words or actions. It is best to remain quiet.

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Sometimes, a task can seem almost impossible. But remember to take baby steps; one foot in front of the other. You can always pause when you are tired out. But take that first step, come what may! Do not procrastinate. Before you know it, you would have completed the task!

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Learn to say no to people who mess with your head. The ones who keep doing things intentionally to upset you. The ones who always play the victim even though it is obvious they are wrong. The ones who expect you to prioritise them but will not do the same for you. Avoid them!

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Everyone wants to succeed in life but only a few will be truly happy for your success. The truth is, people will generally only support your goals and dreams until you make it and end up doing more than them. Sadly, they want to see you do good, but never better than them!

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This world is such that there will be people who love you and those who will hate you. Remember, you are not for everyone and that is ok. You are not in this world to win a popularity poll. So do not waste your time with such people. Share your journey with those who value you.

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Whatever goals you are setting, often it is better to keep that thought to yourself. Not everyone is a well-wisher. While you are telling someone about your next ambitious move, they might not always want the best for you. There is a lot of competition and jealousy out there!

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No matter what is going on, always uphold good character and conduct. Let people criticise, let them pick on petty issues, let them say nasty things. Be good and kind-hearted even if they are not. Rise above it. What goes around comes around. Remember there is Judgement Day!

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We have to accept that regardless of what we want in this world and regardless of whether or not we get it, we are still going to want more and so much more. That is just the nature of Man. Learn to focus more on what is to come, the Hereafter. You will be the happiest person!

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Social media has many benefits but the quality of our life has become largely dependent on what we post online and how it compares to everyone else in our feed. Do not let your value be attached to your online presence. It is unhealthy. Appreciate life. Stop the comparison!

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Some people especially love it when they hear something that makes someone look bad. They seem to thrive on it and cannot wait to spread it. Even though the temptation to gossip is powerful, you will always win when you choose NOT to engage in it. Make that commitment today.

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We live in uncertain times. The world is becoming a more dangerous place; nothing can be taken for granted. Much of the world seems to be in a state of bewildering confusion. Do not neglect the link with our Maker. That is the only way to keep our sanity during these times!

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Thinking of death will help you prepare for that meeting with your Creator. It will help you reflect on how you will appear before Him. Full of regret and shame or with a deep sense of happiness for having been dutiful. The choice is yours. Do not let this world trick you.

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Many of us are stressed because we are in a hurry. We have this mental schedule which must be achieved by a certain time; get a degree, a good job, get married, have kids. We get upset when the schedule is out of sync. Trust that what He has decreed for you will be yours!

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True friends are hard to come by these days. The sad reality is many friends will only like you for what you can do for them instead of for who you are. Identify such friends. Make a conscious effort to change for the better. You will start seeing a difference in your life!

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When you feel like you can't keep going, turn your heart to the One who knows about very aspect of your life. Tell Him you cannot carry on. But He can. Only He can turn things around for you. Ask Him to replace what's lost, mend what's broken and make you feel whole again!

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We should not be defined by others' viewpoint of us, but rather by our actions and our own words. The words we choose to describe people can have a huge impact on them. We never know what each one is experiencing. Let people live their own lives. Let us not judge and label.

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If you have managed to clean up your act so far in this blessed month, that is really commendable. Make a commitment to never let anger, envy, hatred, malice, slander, gossip, backbiting, obscene talk, swear words and the likes from your mouth, come back into your life again!

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Before speaking bad about others, ask yourself; if present, would the person spoken about dislike and become unhappy about what you are saying? If so, then consider staying quiet. It is better to communicate directly with someone than to speak about others behind their backs!

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Jumping to conclusions is one of the most common forms of negative thinking. You usually jump to a negative conclusion without any justifiable facts of the situation. As a result, you become negative, depressed, anxious, sad or angry. Put a stop to it. Change your mindset!

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Always remember, your value is not based on what you look like, what you do, or who you know, your status in life! Also you are not defined by your past. Use the past to learn lessons for the present and future. Your true value comes from how close you are to your Creator!

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We live in an age of envy. Where envy is being taken to extremes. People are generallly dissatisfied with their lives because they cannot achieve the lifestyle they want but which they see others have. This is dangerous. Be grateful for what you have before you lose it all.

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Take a break from social media periodically. Reconnect with the real world. Plug in to real people and places around you. Find time to actually see someone in person instead of sending them a message online. Connections with family and friends are more meaningful face to face!

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When you give others a sincere compliment, words of encouragement or just a warm smile, you are making their world a little better. You are making them feel appreciated and valuable. You will feel more fulfilled because you have done something to make someone else is life better.

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Learn to listen. People just want to be heard. To feel that their voice matters. Give them a listening ear. Show them that in the chaos of this world, someone is concerned and can empathize with them, free from judgment. Be that person for someone. Show your ability to care!

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In a world that is trying to make you hate, judge and not care about others, learn to be considerate and compassionate. Be the bigger person. Be tolerant. Be the one who will go out of your way to help someone. Be the one showing kindness not just in bad times but all the time!

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When you speak about negative traits in others and spread untruths and vicious rumors about them, you are sinning. Be wary. What they are and who they are - that is none of your business anyway. Just stay away from this bad habit and you are working your way towards Paradise!

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Remember there is no problem that cannot be solved or resolved. Life throws us curveballs on occasions and more often than not, what we worry about is not even important in the long term. Always seek guidance and strength from the One who has the answer to all our problems!

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One of the biggest flaws in humans is pretending to be blind to their own shortcomings but they are the first to jump down someone's throat when others make a mistake. Learn to be more self-critical instead of pointing fingers. Leave the judging to the fairest Judge of all!

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Let us admit that we all need love, kindness and care to get through that tough week, the grey skies and storm clouds in life. For the times when things go wrong, when we feel lost, when everyone else appears to be doing well, know that any act of goodness goes a long way.

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It does not matter if everyone else is doing it. You do not have to be part of that crowd. It will get you nowhere. Let go of the need to compare yourself with everyone else. Do what matters most in your life. After all it is your life; you are not living someone else is life!

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When you judge others, you are actually issuing an invitation to them to judge you. Stop focusing on people is faults; instead focus on their strengths. Train yourself to only look for the good in others. You will be a happier person, attracting more positivity into your life.

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The way you treat your parents says a lot about you as a person. Some of us are more mature than others. But it is never easy, there's always a rough patch because we are only human. Your parents just want to see you do things they couldn't do. Be the best child you can be!

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The truth is nobody is born a racist. You have to be taught. Are we dealing with racism, bigotry and prejudice in our own lives so that we can be examples to our children and those under our charge? Do we reject someone only because of his skin colour? Time for reflection!

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Remember, attitude is everything. You have a choice daily as to how you react to things. The bulk of what happens during the course of your day depends largely on your reaction. Have a positive attitude and see how your morale increases and things get better! Choose right!

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Train yourself to remain polite even in the most difficult situation. Stand your ground firmly but politely. Let them curse and swear. Choose to rise above cheap, verbal abuse which is widespread today. Sooner or later they will realize their mistake and how offensive they were!

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The truth is many of us spend a lot of time inside our own mind, overthinking, worrying about what is to come, regretting past events and generally complaining about life. These cause stress and sap your energy. Train your mind to think positive. You will lead a more content life!

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What goes around comes around. Whatever you give, comes back to you. What you sow, you reap. Give kindness, compassion, joy, encouragement, motivation and it will find its way back to you somehow, someday. Do you get the drift? So why would anyone want to spread negativity?

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Do you have friends who are constantly complaining about other people or judging other people. They will make no effort to hide their discontent and they will try to drag you into their pit of despair, except they will not even realize that they are the source of the discontent!

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Many people make the mistake thinking that a confident person is the one who is better than everyone else. That is far from the truth. Confidence isn't strutting into a room thinking you're better than everyone else; it's walking in not having to compare yourself to anyone.

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The most important thing you can do when you have done something wrong is to have the courage to own up and admit your fault. Aplogise to the people you have wronged. Do not look for excuses or scapegoats. A sincere apology shows you are taking responsibility for your own action.

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Being quiet and gentle does not mean you are weak. Such people show deep, inner strength that is under control. It is knowing when to speak and when to listen; when to take action and when to wait. Do not underestimate such people. They walk the earth with the greatest strength!

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When you want to give advice, do so in such a way that people will want to listen to you. Do not be mean and hurtful. Do not use harsh words and turn them off. Be genuine in wanting to correct their ways and help them get back on track. Your sincerity will long be remembered.

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Even the nicest people have their limits! Do not push them too far; do not try to reach those limits. Once the boundary is crossed, they will never be the same person you used to know and you will only have yourself to blame! If you cannot be kind, remain quiet. Do not hurt people!

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Some love being controversial and argumentative just to get recognition in life. They love making headlines and being in the limelight. Be careful. Think of the consequences when you are alone in your grave or worse having to defend yourself before your Creator on Judgement Day!

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The evil eye is real and should not be taken lightly. Most people are negligent in protecting themselves and do not worry about showing off their blessings; posting every detail of their life on social media. Know that not everyone who sees your story will be happy for you!

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Keep praying for patience and contentment. We live in such a materialistic world that it can be hard to resist stuff you see around you. Do not be tempted to have the latest in everything; fashion, electronic gadgets, computers and cars. Spend that money on a good cause instead!

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Do not measure worldly success by a rich lifestyle and all the modern day trappings. Measure it by the number of hearts you have touched, the faces who smile when they hear your name, the things people say about you in your absence! That is a life well lived! Strive to get there!

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How worthy you are to others depends on your words. Choose them wisely. Once spoken, you cannot undo them. Many people are careless with their words. They curse, swear, hurl vulgarities, use harsh words which hurt others in the process. Do not live to regret what you uttered!

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The evil eye is real. Protect yourself as best you can. Take precautions. For many, this will be hard because we live in such a self-serving society today. We want to show off! There is a need within many of us to be validated and accepted by others; even people we do not know!

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Family interference is one of the reasons why marriages fail. When spouses share personal or internal problems with family members, be prepared for trouble. Problems get distorted. Problems become larger than life. Try and settle your disputes without taking them to others.

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You can forgive completely but still choose to keep a safe distance from that person to protect yourself from unwanted harm or a repeat of what happened in the first place. Forgiving doesn't require you to embrace or interact with the one you forgave. Do not confuse the two.

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Forgive the one who wronged you for your own sake. You will still remember what happened, but you will no longer be bound by it. But remember, forgiveness is a process. It may not happen immediately. It requires strength and you are working towards it! That is all that matters!

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Today, bullying no longer occurs only in schools. Social media has provided another way for bullies who seek to demean others. Home is no longer safe for victims of bullying; a Facebook status can hurt just as much, if not more, than hearing the typed words spoken out loud!

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Misunderstanding often leads to grudges. When we hold a grudge, we give someone power over our emotions. Without forgiveness, it is easy to let things get out of hand. When we forgive, our doors and avenues to goodness open up. It puts our relationship with Him back on track!

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If your intent is wrong, your deeds done for the sake of humankind will come to nought. Check your intentions often. Because you do not want to fall into the trap; you think you are doing a lot but when you arrive on Judgement Day, you are a bankrupt! That would be devastating!

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We live in angry times. All the sharing on social media makes it worse. Learn to control your innermost urge to retaliate. You do not have to give as good as you got! If you do not slow down when you start to see red, you can do significant damage to your life. Keep the peace!

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Making peace with your inner self is important. It starts from the inside first. It could mean mending broken relationships that have been bugging you, strengthening existing ones or simply making sense of your negative feelings. Let go of resentments. Do not wait. Start now.

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Hypocrites love to gossip, they love to know what everyone else is doing; their ins and outs. They may even make up gossip if it is not juicy enough. It can be hurtful and upsetting when you are the subject of the untruthful gossip. Confront them peacefully and pray for them!

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We all have our scars. We all have broken pieces. But the beauty in all that is they come together to create the real you! The you who survived the pain and hardship, the you who emerged stronger, kinder and more compassionate! The you who is ready for whatever life dishes out!

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Hiding pain under a smile is not easy. It can be one of the hardest things to do. You do it when you care about others more than you do for yourself. But remember, a smile can hide so much; anxiety, fear, pain, sadness, tears. But they reflect one main thing. Inner strength!

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Arrogance is being full of yourself, you're always right. You strut around like you know everything. Confidence is humble, quiet and doesn't shout. You are full of useful knowledge and you share it in a manner that does not make the other person feel ignorant! Know the difference!

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Remember, nothing lasts. Next year, you are unlikely to be in the same place that you are now. Things happen, people change. That is life. New happenings await you. New blessings. New trials. New opportunities. So always be aware and keep your focus. Change is the only constant.

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It is human nature to always want the best view when we are in a beautiful place. That is what we will have in Paradise. Sadly, many of us have become distracted and. absorbed by this temporary world and forgotten our purpose and goals for our Hereafter. Strive to get back on track!

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Pray for those you love. Pray for those who hate you. Pray for those who try to harm you. Why? Because prayer is the most precious gift you can give someone and a good prayer may soften their heart and lead them to be guided. Imagine the rewards that await you! Keep praying!

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You are disappointed not because of other people is behavior but because of your own expectations. Accept the fact that people will let you down. Time and again. They will show you their true colours eventually. Learn to expect only from the One who made you. He always delivers!

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Negative thoughts produce bad feelings like anger, envy, jealousy, hatred, anxiety, etc. These are thoughts about the world, our wealth, our status, people we do not like or who have wronged us... Detach your heart from these worldly things which do not last. Feel the relief!

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We criticize others because we are impatient. We do not tolerate those who behave differently. We expect people to behave like us. When we focus on someone else is flaw, we stop seeing the person. We just see their mistakes. Get rid of this bad habit. Work to improve ourselves!

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The truth is you are going to be slandered from time to time, so do not allow it to throw you into emotional turmoil when it happens. If you feel the need to defend yourself against a lie, the best approach is to give yourself time to cool off. Think the matter through calmly.

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Someone did you wrong? Learn to let it go. The truth is they will ruin more of your life if you allow them to invade your mind like a virus. This will in turn affect the quality of your life. The best thing to do is to move on. Show that you are strong enough to take control.

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Many people crop, tweak, add filters and manipulate their images to present an impression of how they want to be perceived. Separating reality from the online image can be tough. Often, young people end up looking harshly at themselves as a result. They think they are failures!

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No matter how negative you may feel, always try and communicate in as positive a manner as possible. If you choose words that are negative, that is the impression you will leave with the person on the receiving end. So do not respond when you are angry or when others annoy you!

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We are only human and we tend to feel down or upset at times. But do not allow such feelings to interfere with how you communicate with others. It is easy to lash out and vent your anger but learn to control yourself. It is one of the hardest things to do. But the rewards are great!

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Be wary of toxic people around you. Those who come in to lower your self-esteem. Those who come into your life and leave you worse off than you were before. They will hinder your growth and cause you misery. Learn to spot them. Do not get involved with them. Say a prayer for them.

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Sometimes change means starting over. Do not be afraid to do that. At times, you need to overhaul your life to see your steps ahead. So whatever you are experiencing, do not be afraid to start over. This time, you are not starting from scratch but you are starting from experience!

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What have we become today? We hardly speak to people anymore. Even phone calls are being replaced by WhatsApp. We hide our feelings and turn them into tweets and blogposts. Our memories are merely a collection of photos on Instagram. Let us strive not to lose the human touch!

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Social media has given a voice to the voiceless. Our videos, posts and comments online are a reflection of who we are and what we stand for. Unfortunately, people with ill intent use them to spew hate and spread ignorance. Do not let their comments affect you. Such people need help!

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Love, trust and mutual respect are the bedrock of a solid marriage. It does not come easy. It is hard work and has to be nurtured daily. Do not let mistrust creep into the equation. Do not give your spouse reason to mistrust you. Once trust is broken, it will not be the same again.

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Keep negativity out of your life at all costs. Do not focus on the negatives, not just today but every day because it will only eat at your soul, slowly but surely. You will become a thankless person, always nitpicking over tiny details. Keep reminding yourself of the blessings!

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Publicizing a sin is so much more serious than the sin itself because it carries with it a level of arrogance and promotion of illicit behavior. Instead of remorse over committing the sin, we are more caught up in trying to figure out how to show off what we did to our friends!

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Beware the hypocrite. He is always looking for faults or advising you about your life, job, habits, etc. But he never follows his own advice. Some have an agenda and can hurt your self-confidence badly. Do not give your time to deceitful people, pretending to be what they are not!

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Take time out to disconnect from your surroundings occasionally. Enjoy your own company because it is easy to get overwhelmed by life and all that it offers. Keep your heart connected to the One who made you and you will achieve that inner peace and contentment that we all badly need!

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Are you among those who when asked for advice, you hardly ever try to understand the person is unique situation and needs; you give advice based on your own bitterness and cynicism; you live in a constant state of dissatisfaction. If that is you, it is time to be more compassionate!

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Stop stressing yourself over how your life is going to turn out. Nobody has it all figured out. Only the One who made you knows what will happen. So live your life the best way you can and attach your heart to the One who matters most. It is one sure way to attain contentment!

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Are you guilty of deriving pleasure from the misfortune of others? Something bad happens to someone else and you secretly take pleasure from it. Be careful. It shows a poisonous heart which willl get worse if you do not check it. Empathize, be kind and show compassion instead!

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The past is the past. You can't change it and whatever has happened is out of your control. Truth is, the past can hurt, but it's also what you make of it. Choose to let those memories go. Learn whatever lessons you can but do not dwell and keep harping on them. Lighten your load!

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When you are always making assumptions about others, you damage your capacity to relate to them. You are always assuming you know how they think and feel, so you stop listening and communicating, leading to misunderstanding. Be mindful of this. It can spiral into negative thinking!

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Do not take anything for granted. You never know when you'll have it for the last time. Life is a precious gift, cherish every moment while you can. It is truly such a blessing to be alive and to be able to impact the lives of others. You will never know whose life you are touching.

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Today, it's just so easy to take pictures of all the good things going on in your life, post them on social media and to a random person looking at your feed it may look like that's how your life always is. Who are we fooling? Ourselves! Be wary not to believe your online life!

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Beautiful patience is a gift. Not everyone has it. It is the ability to accept what happens at the first sign of a calamity and the ability to hold on to that patience till the trial is over. No complaining, no whinging, just a calm accepting heart from the start till the end!

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When you encounter hate in any form, in speech or action, you must immediately denounce it, report it and stop it. It is your duty. It should not be tolerated whether in our everday lives, on main stream or social media. Say no to hate. Say no to violence! End the vicious cycle!

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Being successful and having everything does not define your self-worth. Being positive is one of the main things you need for survival. The ability to see the glass half full rather than half empty is the key to being happy and appreciating where you are in life. Thank Him always!

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In this make believe world of social media, people will only show you what they want you to see. Remember, everyone has a chapter in their lives where they do not read out loud. So do not be fooled by the perfect front that you often see. You would be foolish to believe all that.

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Social media trolls take it upon themselves to make negative, derogatory and even abusive comments about everything you say or do. They are acknowledging the impact you have on others and are jealous of the good you do. Ignore them and their agenda. Smile and carry on your good work!

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We are careful what we put into our mouths, choosing our foods meticulously so that they keep our bodies functioning well. The same should apply to what comes out of our mouths. If we choose to spew hateful, curse and swear words, imagine how that would impact the ones affected.

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When things are smooth, when everything is easy, you do not learn much; you are hardly growing as a person. Remember, the greatest lessons are learnt when you go through hardship and the storms of life. Embrace them and know that you will emerge stronger and better than before!

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The truth is always more important than what others think of you. However, there is a way of presenting the truth. There is no need to insult, abuse and defame others in the process. Kind words with wisdom, showing true concern and care are more likely to have the desired impact.

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Forgiveness can be more challenging with family because deeper emotions are involved when a family member hurts us. Choosing not to forgive and breaking ties of kinship is wrong. So do the right thing and forgive because forgiveness helps both sides! It will give you peace of mind!

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If you still think money is the route to happiness, you are wrong. A healthy body, a tranquil soul, a pure heart, a caring spouse and children, a mother is love; these are just some of the things that will give meaning to your life. All the wealth in the world cannot buy you that!

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Beware the toxic friends who will never compliment you. They will never have a good word or congratulate you on your achievements. In fact, they're much more likely to kick you when you're down. It is always about them. They will drain you of all your energy! Keep your distance!

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All the wealth you painstakingly amass will remain here. You will not be able to take one single thing with you. Always remember this. What are you gaining really, and at what price? Are you sacrificing your Hereafter for some glitz and glamour of this world that many call luxury?

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There are people who will not hesitate to provoke you, trying their best to bring out the worst in you. When they have achieved that, they will play the victim and make you feel bad. Be mindful of such people. They really need help. Try your best to remain calm. Keep your composure!

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Parenting is not an easy task. But no matter what obstacles you face, keep going. Keep leading by example. Keep being a role model for your children. The good we teach our children stays with them and will become a part of their daily lives. So plant good seeds in their hearts!

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Admit your mistakes. It is a good trait to have and it gains respect from the ones around you because it shows both humility and your willingness to learn. Remember, it is easy to claim responsibility when things go well, but it is hard when they do not. Do not look for scapegoats!

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We need to realize that our constant need to complain has a simple and fundamental reason: we lack of a sense of contentment. The truth is we are often dissatisfied and it has taken the place of contentment in our hearts. So everything that we say is a reflection of how we feel!

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Do not engage friends who speak ill of their spouses to you. No matter how close you are to them, learn to keep friendship separate from their personal life. You have to draw the line. The erring spouses could have repented and changed their ways and you are still bad mouthing them.

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Beware the negativity that keeps popping up in your mind. At times, this is related to a setback you have had. You need to counter it and do not worry what people may think. They will talk anyway. You cannot stop them. What you can do is to focus on the positive and goodness around you!

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The company you keep says a lot about you. Friends have a big influence over how you feel, think and behave. Beware the ones who will mould you to become like them. Some will control you till you mimic their behaviour. If you are weak-willed, chances are you will succumb and cave in!

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When we hear bad about others, we're so quick to believe it. But when we hear good about them, we find it hard to believe. It shouldn't be so for a true believer. Do not believe the bad about others until it is proven beyond any doubt and if it doesn't concern you, stay out of it.

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What is this life but a marathon, one that is customised for each and every person. To win this race, you must not give up. You must keep going and cross the finish line. There will be many distractions along the way. Do not give in to them. Keep your heart and mind focused on your goal.

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Learn not to tell people more than they need to know. This can be difficult but be conscious of the information that you choose to divulge. People have no business to know everything about you. The less you tell, the better for you. It can save you from a whole lot of trouble.

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Pray for those who've passed away and prepare for the day you and I will leave this world. Today, we've lost a legend. Ebrahim Gangat. You were loved by millions and will surely be missed. Your legacy lives on. May your shortcomings be forgiven and may you be granted Paradise. Aameen.

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You become what you constantly think about. If you think you cannot, you probably will not make it. If you think you are a failure, you will end up not doing anything significant in life. If you think negative thoughts always, you will end up with negative results. Guard your thoughts!

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We are bombarded with the temptation to be popular daily. The pressure to do what others are doing. Do not fall into this trap. Even if everyone is doing it, wrong is never right. Evil, wrongdoings and darkness will never be the truth, even if popular. Let your faith stand firm!

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People with large egos can be difficult to deal with. Signs of a big ego include over confidence, blindness to personal flaws, focus on self over others and difficulty seeing other points of view. Be wary of such people. They may not take kindly to advice. Pray for them instead!

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There is no doubt that life can be incredibly hard at times. The sick, terminally ill, sadness, oppression, adversity. The list goes on. But the one thing we have is our ability to help someone in their time of need. Let them know that someone cares. What a difference it makes!

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Do not believe anyone who says that he has it all together; there is no such thing. Every single one of us is fighting an unseen battle that is often hidden by a brave exterior. That's why it is so important to be compassionate. Always try and put yourself in someone else is shoes!

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Social media is making us forget how to interact with people in real-life. For some, posting what they want others to see helps them feel better about themselves, making them feel they are connected to others. But technology is not life. Spend more time with people! Not devices!

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We often hear people say the grass is greener on the other side. That is not true. Stop comparing your lawn with someone else is. The truth is it is greener where you water it! It is greener where you nurture it. Focus on the major things in life and you will see how it will thrive!

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You will learn more from the bad days than the good days because they are designed to toughen you, provided you learn the life lessons attached to them. Some do not and they get stuck at a certain level because they refuse to or cannot see the whole picture yet! Pray for guidance!

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Some people just cannot communicate in a straightforward manner. They will use sarcasm as a defence mechanism, send mixed signals or act like nothing is wrong. If you cannot help such people, stay away from them. Life is complicated enough without having to second-guess others!

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Couples need to work together to keep outside forces that may try to break them or their family. At times, this could be in the form of in-laws or the extended family. Hold your ground firmly and respectfully. You will end up with longer lasting and happier married lives together!

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When you stain your tongue with slander, backbiting and gossip, your spirituality goes down significantly. You may think you are harming the other person but in actual fact, you are harming yourself. So learn to hold your tongue because it has the power to make you or break you!

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If you are often stressed, anxious, feel like a failure or you're not doing what you think you should be doing in life, consider this. Start serving others. You will feel a sense of self worth that you are actually helping someone and making a difference. See how your life changes!

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In a world where there is so much fake, find it in your heart to be yourself. Be you. Do not be a hypocrite. No apologies. Say no when you do not want something. Do not be forced into saying yes. Be honest. Be authentic. Do not be part of anything fake. Your heart will be at peace!

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Be wary of those who lie to make themselves feel good. They have an ego problem. They discredit others out of jealousy, always wanting to be one up and to show the world that they are the good ones. It will not last. The truth will out. It will lead to their own downfall eventually!

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Be kind to people. Never think you're better than others. The trouble with those who appear pious is that they think they are on a higher level and scoff at everyone else who may seem less pious! It is a terrible trait to have. Do not be hard on others. Piety comes with gentleness.

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In our bid to solve problems, we sometimes create even bigger problems. Repairing a burst pipe requires glue. Using a drill will destroy whatever remains of the pipe. Be wary. In a fit of rage, we may cause greater loss to ourselves instead of resolving the issue we are facing.

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Have the courage to walk away from the drama and people who create it around you. It is most often about them and not you. Surround yourself with those who support you and believe in you. Focus on the positive. Love those who treat you well, pray for the ones who do not! They need it!

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As you go about spreading goodness and lending a hand to others, remember that you are just as important as other people. Learn to say no when your obligations and responsibilities get too much. Do not spread yourself so thin that you will end up no good for yourself or anyone else!

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Always remind yourself that this life is short. It is like a visa given to you for a temporary stay. So keep the Hereafter in mind and learn to do things which will add value to your life. Choose virtuous, righteous people as friends; those who will keep you on the straight path!

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Learn to take things in your stride. Ups and downs happen to everyone. Remember, we'll all experience pain, hardship, heartache, disappointment, betrayal, loss, fear, loneliness, grief and suffering. It is your ability to react to them correctly that will determine your life story.

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Patience is a quality of the heart. The more patient you are, the better person you become. An effective way to strengthen our patience is through the link with our Creator. Do not lose that link. Exercise patience for His sake and He will not let you down in your darkest moments.

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Do not give up now. You have come this far. The difficult days will make way for happier days soon enough. Remember, nothing lasts. So when you see a day where you think you cannot possibly get out of bed to face the world, do not worry or panic. Better and brighter days are ahead!

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Be wary when angry. When you react in anger thinking you must hurt those who hurt you, think again. In fact, you are hurting yourself. That is why it is always better to calm down and act rationally later on. When you choose to react immediately, the consequences can be disastrous!

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Some get a big thrill from boasting about their achievements or showing off their possessions. They believe that they are better than others. They may even end up pushing people around. That is wrong. Remember, whatever you have, someone will have more! That is life! Stay humble!

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Many want to marry but they forget that staying married is hard work. It does not just happen. Easy was never part of the agreement. Do not think divorce is the easy way out because it is not. Work hard at your marriage. Remember, everything in life improves when we work at it!

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Before pointing a finger, nitpicking on others or condemning another person's shortcomings, do remember that we are all sinners. No one is prefect. We are all answerable to our Creator. He is All-Knowing. So choose to advise with wisdom and patience over exposing people is faults!

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If you are true to yourself, whatever bad someone tries to do or whatever they did to embarrass you can only strengthen you. Do not worry about the plotters and evil doers, they will have their day. Remember, the consequences of their actions will have to be dealt with eventually.

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Be mindful of the online world. When you let yourself go, you run into the danger of slipping too far into it and losing a sense of real life, real self and real priorities. It can distract people so much from reality that they may forget who they really are! It is happening now!

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Remember, the ones who need kindness the most are the ones who are strangers to it. Their hearts are hard and cold; they would generally have little or no regard about how their words and actions affect others. Still, be kind to them because your actions reflect who you truly are!

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Do not think that there are people with a problem-free life out there. Every single person is fighting a battle, often hidden by a brave front. That is why it is important to have good character and conduct. Remember, this world will break you. So lend a hand and have a good heart!

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We are all guests in this world. As the rule goes, all guests will have to leave sooner or later. Death is the common factor for all. If this becomes the cornerstone of our lives, then it gets easier to rid our hearts of animosity, hatred, jealousy, envy, grudge and hostility!

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Beware the gossiper. He usually has bad intent. He speaks negatively about others and belittle their worth to increase his own. If you are in the company of such people and the talk turns negative, look for ways to bring it back to a positive focus that is not belittling to others.

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Do not let negative people ruin your positive mindset. Let them go before they completely infiltrate your mind. Such people have issues with themselves and with everything and everyone around them. Make a conscious effort to stay away from them. Do not entertain such friendship!

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If you are tempted to share something on social media, investigate before you do. Anything you post comes from you, which means you are responsible for it is accuracy, even if you got it from somewhere else. Things can come back to haunt you in the most unimaginable way. Be wary.

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Train yourself not to stress over negative comments made about you on social media. In fact, do not respond. People hide behind their screens to release their frustrations. Their mean words and baseless allegations say more about them than anyone else. Do not lose sleep over them.

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Your time is the most valuable gift you can give to your family. Money comes and goes but the memories will stay far beyond all that. The strong bond you develop will last a long while. Start giving the gift of time before it is too late. Do not put it off because life is too short!

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Do not feel that you have to tell everyone what you have been up to in your life. You do not! Nobody needs to know everything. Do not announce it on social media too because having people with eyes that constantly pry into your private life is not healthy. It attracts envy and hatred.

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Know when to get involved and when to lay off. Some things just are not worth your energy. There is too much going on around us and it is easy to get sucked into other people is drama. Learn to take a step back and look at things in perspective. Do not be too quick to take the plunge.

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Do not let success go to your head. Be the first to apologize for your mistakes. You will never learn anything or impress anyone by making excuses and shifting the blame. Treat everyone with dignity and respect. You may be successful, but that does not make you better than anyone else!

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The reason many people are on social media is because they want attention. It is measured by the number of likes, views, retweets, comments etc. Remember, you do not have to rely on others for your confidence and self-esteem. Disengage from seeking attention. Love yourself first!

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Why cannot we be happy for others when they achieve something? As in truly happy; no snide remarks or sarcastic comments. It all stems from the heart. The positive energy you exude towards others will come back to you. So the next time, you hear such news, celebrate, do not hate!

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Do not be disheartened if you cannot help much with charity in terms of material stuff. You can always be the one who adds value to the lives of others. Find ways to be a source of encouragement everywhere you go. Spread goodness and kindness always. It will all come back to you.

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Drawing inspiration from another person is allowed. But there are dangers of looking to so-called celebrities as role models. Remember, they are just people. It's easy to forget this when society elevates them to superhuman status. They are not. They make mistakes like all of us!

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Take a long, hard look at yourself in the mirror. See if the person staring back at you is the person you want to be. Do this often as it is a good form of self-reflection. There is always room for improvement. Focus on trying to be a better person today than you were yesterday.

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Some people just thrive being in the spotlight. They put on a show for everyone to see. They love being praised; it does wonders to their egos. They will create dramas just to be the centre of focus. Minimize your dealings with them if possible. Do not get drawn into their circle.

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Do not be narrow-minded and think of doing things only for yourself. It will frustrate you; you will want something more. Learn to do things for others. Learn to help any which way you can. When you help others, it opens the door for you to be blessed! Do it without batting an eyelid.

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Do not make it your business to gossip about those who are trying hard to improve themselves. Pray for them instead. Motivate and encourage, add a good word but never put them down. Do not be arrogant and think you have got it all good. No one is perfect. We are all a work in progress.

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If there is nothing more important in one is life than prayer, why is it that we do not place enough importance on it. Some even neglect it. How can we expect to have success in this world and the next when we turn a deaf ear to the call to success daily? Let's change our priorities

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Some will not understand you. Some will not support you. Some will leave you. Some will not even care if you are down in the dumps. But no matter what others put you through, your Creator will always be there for you. He knows every moment of your struggle. He will compensate you greatly

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Do not engage small-minded, petty people unless you are able to help them. What you say and do will never be good enough for them. They will make your life difficult. Focus on controlling our own actions. We cannot allow ourselves to get sucked into their madness or we will end up hurt!

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Remember, no one in your life is perfect. Stop expecting them to be perfect. There is no such thing. Such people do not exist. You are setting yourself up for a huge disappointment if you expect perfection. We are all humans and we make mistakes. Accept it and you will be a lot happier!

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You are allowed to disagree with others, state your opinion respectfully but NEVER get physical or violent. This quality makes us distinct from animals! So be civilised, listen to what others are saying but avoid knee-jerk reactions. It would save you from a whole lot of regret!

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Sometimes what is not said is the more powerful message. But we are too busy speaking our minds that we miss the clues. The one who says she is fine but has eyes full of tears. The one who smiles because she is too sad to cry. Even the strongest have their breaking points. Be kind

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When you want to correct others, you have to do it gently without being distasteful. Sometimes when you give advice, people become more aggressive and even worse off than they were before you gave them advice because of the way you did it. Choose the kindest words and be sincere!

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Many think that marriage is magical and that love can change all your woes. When it fades or leaves, at least from time to time, they think that means the marriage should end. Wrong! Marriages take work. They do not happen by magic and do not stay alive without investing in them!

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Instead of comparing yourself to others, compare your own progress in life. How you were before to how you are today; your former self to your present self. If you have made progress and you are doing your best to stay on the straight path, you are on the right track! Keep going.

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Learn not to get upset when people say bad things about you. Do not waste your energy with negative emotions. They will only drain you. Remember, people will not bother about those who are not making an impact in life! Continue doing what you do best and let others say what they will!

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Non-stop complaining to anyone who will listen to you while at the same time wallowing in self-pity and negativity is wrong. More so if you have no desire to solve the matter. Instead, try choosing thoughts that will lead to a solution. Remember the blessings He has bestowed on us.

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Do you suffer from the disease where you constantly seek the approval of others? People-pleasers are the go-to person who will always change their plans at a moment is notice. The one who will always say yes. The one who never says no. If you are, it is time to rethink your life!

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Gossip is verbal poison. It seeks to defame and discredit others. It is hurtful and dangerous. It is the quickest way to destroy trust and friendships. Do not take it lightly. You may think it is harmless but you are actually ruining someone is reputation. You will pay a high price for it.

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Worrying about what happened yesterday will not change anything. Learn from it. Move on. Worrying about tomorrow is also futile because we do not know what it holds. Take it one step at a time, one day at a time. Trust His Plans and do not let worry rob you of life is precious moments!

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Learn to listen more. As simple as it sounds, listening is a skill, an art and a discipline. Pay attention to what someone is saying. Listen to his words. It is coming from his heart. The mouth will reveal what the heart feels. Listening can save you from a whole lot of trouble!

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Always take the high road and do the right thing, even if it may not be easy or popular with most. Choose the course of action which is moral or acceptable and which is least likely to harm or upset other people. It is challenging because life is tough but the rewards are tremendous

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Some people only feel worthy when they surround themselves with important people. Depending on others to make you feel good is like chasing a moving target. You can't control what other people think of you and certainly can't please everyone all the time. So do not waste your time

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Do not keep looking for what is missing in our lives. Learn to see the blessings that are actually there. Instead of focusing on what we have, we keep looking and stressing over what we do not have. When we see others, we think their lives are always grander than ours. That is a myth

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Choose kindness above all else. Kind people use positivity as a lantern to create more light. That is because they have seen what negativity can do to you. They make time for others in a world that does not wait for anyone. It takes strength to shake off all the bad and move ahead!

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Everything you do comes back to you; whether good or bad. You are a reflection of what you put out into the world. If you constantly use and abuse people, life will use and abuse you. If you dedicate your life to doing good, you will be rewarded. Be positive, kind and compassionate.

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If you find yourself and your conversation focusing on people; what is going on in their lives, their relationships, their social status etc, then you have a serious problem on your hand. You need to get out of that mould; focus on yourself rather than being concerned with others.

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Let it go. The things that have happened in the past, the things that are not happening right now, let it go. If you want to move on, stop looking back on your past. That part of your life is over. If you want to see the light, stop holding yourself in the darkness of your past.

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The real test of sincerity is to see whether a person will help you even if he knows he will get nothing in return from you. The truth is anyone can help when there is something to gain in return; but to help when there is nothing to be gained shows true love and a beautiful heart!

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Choose your friends wisely. It is always easier to pull people down than to build them up. Make sure your circle of friends will do just that; moving you in the right direction. They should be building you up rather than tearing you down. If you have such friends, treasure them!

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Some people will not hesitate to use you to serve their purpose. Whatever you do, do not get involved in their drama if they try to make you take sides. There is always two sides to a story. Be fair, stay positive and do not pit one against the other. Let them resolve their differences!

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A good rule to live by; if you stop fueling a fire, it will burn itself out. If you stop fueling an argument with harsh words, it will stop eventually. But if you choose to engage with hurtful words it will get worse. The choice is yours. Learn to keep the peace as best you can.

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Do not just focus on how you can make your life better, look for ways to make someone else is life better too. Often, it is hard to find someone willing to go out of their way to help those in need. When you are able to do that, then you will achieve satisfaction and true contentment.

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Try and do something each day to bring a smile on your parents face. Show them the love and appreciation that they deserve for all that they have done for you. Do not be among those who neglect them and see their worth only after they have left this world. Do not live with the regret!

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Do not be fooled into thinking that everyone is your friend. Just because they hang around you does not mean they are your friends. People pretend well. They will laugh with you and joke around with you. At the end of the day, when push comes to shove, they will be exposed. Take heed.

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Learn to use other is success as inspiration. Instead of focusing on our failure, we can see their achievement as something to motivate us. If he did it, so can we; our time will come! We can be proactive, evaluate their success and see how we can apply it to improve our own lives.

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Do not pay heed to people who talk behind your back. You cannot stop them. What everyone else has to say, think, or feel about how you live your life does not and should not affect your happiness or state of mind. It is really about them, not you. Realize this before it's too late.

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Treat your spouse kindly and do not resort to abuse in any form. Lack of kindness is often the source of marital conflicts and the cause of most divorce. Anger, selfish or irresponsible behavior and criticism have a huge impact on kindness. It will threaten your marriage bit by bit!

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Do not think that you have nothing to offer those around you, no matter how insignificant you feel it is. Always remember that you add value to the people you mix with. You have something to give everyone; whether it is your time, a smile, a prayer, an encouraging word or lend a hand!

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Stop labelling people. We are conditioned to judge people based on their appearance, behavior, job etc. It happens subconsciously, we do not even realize it. Labels limit others and limit interaction. Even labels with good intentions, can create resentment and the desire for revenge.

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Our use of technology is causing a huge family divide because we just cannot put down our phones. Parents and children spend hours on mobile devices, cutting down the time for face to face interaction. Make an effort to reduce the use of your devices and start building relationships.

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At times, we condemn good people because we disagree with them over a few issues. We refuse to see the good they are doing. Disagreements do not automatically make a person extreme, bad or evil. Learn to distinguish between the one who respectfully disagrees and the one who is evil!

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Being betrayed is hard to live with. The sorrow of betrayal doesn't come all at once but in stages, as you begin to realise the extent. Once trust is violated, old emotions and pain are always at the back of your mind. So do not betray trust for it will be hard to restore what is lost!

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Laziness and putting things off are all part of the Devil is plan. If you keep procrastinating, before you know it, years have gone by. But what is worse is you may not live to do it as no one is promised tomorrow. You will never know when all this will end. Do not delay. Act on it now!

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Smokers become very defensive when reminded that they need to quit the bad habit. There are so many reasons to do so; it is a waste of money, secondhand smoke harms others and smoking actually kills! Take control of your life before it is too late. Be strong and quit it once and for all!

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Sins are almost always associated with an accompanying sense of guilt. While we can always turn a blind eye to those guilty feelings, we know that such guilt will slowly chip away at our happiness. Repentance will remove that guilt and fill our hearts with calmness and tranquility!

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You should know by now that people will speculate, they will think the worst of you, they will judge, assume, gossip and backbite. When told the truth, most will not even bother to correct themselves. Such is the state of humankind today. Protect yourself. Stay away from such sinful acts!

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You have got to be patient in this journey called LIFE. It will make you, it will break you. You will meet people along the way who will render help and those who will leave you by the wayside. But if you keep asking the One who made you, He will never disappoint. So never stop asking!

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Some people will go out of their way to lie like it is the only truth. They mislead the unsuspecting without batting an eyelid. Be careful of fake news, false information and lies disguised as the truth. Always verify important information. Do not believe everything you hear or read!

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